18 simple tips to help you feel better about yourself and build you self confidence today.

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There are very few people who could call themselves perfect and be right. Most of us need to build our self confidence, but the majority of us either ignore the issues or concentrate on the negatives: stress, worry, jobs, money problems and relationship issues. Concentrating on these areas drains our self confidence rather than improving it.

If you could improve your self confidence you could make more money, look and feel better physically, or just be more relaxed with other people. Below there are five simple techniques that have been proven to help build self confidence today.

1.Talk to yourself. It sounds crazy but it works. All of us have a running monologue constantly in our heads, whether we realise it or not. Everything we see, hear, or touch sparks off an immediate dialog in our thoughts.

For those who lack confidence this monologue is filled with negative messages, many of which are the negative side of adverts from television, radio, newspapers, and just overhearing other people talk.

These negative thoughts literally suck energy from our minds and bodies and block the flow of positive messages. We need to hear the positive messages as they will build self confidence and raise our self esteem. Take control. Use your inner thoughts to talk to yourself in a positive manner, as often as you can.

As an example one of my regular sayings is “I like myself, I like myself, I like myself”. I just repeat it for a couple of minutes. It sounds cheesy, but does build self confidence – Try it. I bet that if you go to the mirror right now and repeat out loud “I like myself!” 50 times, it will be impossible to not smile.

2.Dress smartly and as classy as you can. You wont feel at your best if you don’t look your best. You will be amazed at just how much more confidence you will have just looking your best. It feels good when you are wearing your best clothes, are well groomed, and are surrounded by a clean environment. So what if it is Saturday, you need to build self confidence today not next week. Put on your nice clothes, get the car washed, style that hair! A hairdresser once told me “Everyday is show time!”

3.Give Thanks. Increase your self esteem even more by giving thanks to what you are, how you look, and what you are doing. Say “thank you” to yourself, to everything you see, everyone you meet, and each smile that you receive.

4.Stand or sit correctly: How you stand sends out a message to the World, and in turn, back to you. This results in improving how you feel about yourself and will build self confidence today and every day.

There is scientific evidence that shows how posture affects our mood. Do not slouch. Slouching produces a down mood. By slouching you are telling the world and yourself it doesn’t matter, you don’t matter. Standing tall and upright will actually lift your mood. Help build up your confidence by pulling back those shoulders, stop that slouch, and walk proud.

5.Smile. Just smile and things seem better somehow. Practice smiling regularly and get your facial muscles used to the physical act of smiling.

Go to the mirror and smile – make yourself. Not a grimace, but a proper smile. If you don’t think you can try this:

1)Open your eyes as wide as you can – (try and get your eyebrows right up to you hair line)
2)Slightly open your mouth
3)Pull the corners of your mouth back towards your ears (If your not sure pull them back with your fingers so you know what it feels like then try again without your fingers).
4)Repeat 50 times. Get your facial muscles used to smiling and you will smile more and encourage smiles from others. This will make you feel happier and with that you’ll build self confidence today.

6. Think positive. keep your thought positive. Your thoughts and feelings create your reality (Law of Attraction) It is impossible to monitor every though but when you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts think about something positive, a positive event or person and how you felt at that time.

7. Act positive. More than just thinking positively, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Acting in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can’t, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You’ll soon start to notice a difference.

8. Get to know yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. You can’t defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you’re trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analysing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you’ll come out (eventually) with even greater self-confidence.
9. Know your principles and live them. What are the principles upon which your life is built? If you don’t know, you will have trouble, because your life will feel directionless. Think about your principles … you might have them but perhaps you haven’t given them much thought. Now think about whether you actually live these principles, or if you just believe in them but don’t act on them.
 
10. Increase competence. How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent. And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. If you want to be a more competent writer, for example, don’t try to tackle the entire profession of writing all at once. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. The more you write, the better you’ll be. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write, and the practice will increase your competence.
 
11. Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail because they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal youknow you can achieve, and then achieve it. You’ll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you’ll be at it, and the better you’ll feel. Soon you’ll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.

12. Change a small habit. Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. When you’ve accomplished it, you’ll feel like a million dollars. (check out the daily success habits in this course).

13. Be grateful. I’m a firm believer in gratitude. I put it here because while being grateful for what you have in life, for what others have given you, is a very humbling activity … it can also be a very positive and rewarding activity that will improve your self-image. Also, the more gratitude you send out the more the universe will send you to be grateful for. There is a whole section on gratitude later in the course.

14. Who inspires you. We often have role models or people we admire. It could be their image, their energy, their people skills, leadership skills, the way they make life seem so easy and uncomplicated or something else. Whatever Inspires you, think about who you would like to be by considering what it is in others that you admire and aspire to. If you can see it in others, you already have that quality in you.

15. Write an achievement list. If you look back at your life, what have you already achieved? Go back to school time writing down the exams you passed, the jobs you had, the friendships you made, experiences you had and so on. You will be surprised at how much you have already achieved, and sometimes it is not until we write it down that we can actually see how successful we have already been.

16.Spend time with people who make you feel good. You are already fabulous, it doesn’t hurt to keep being reminded!

Find people that inspire you, find out what they are doing to create successful lives, follow them on Facebook or twitter, read their blogs, books etc. Spend time with happy, successful people. People that make you feel good, encourage you to be the best you can be. Learn from them. These people will naturally boost your confidence. ( as discussed in finding your support team).

17. Boost your strengths. Do more of the things you are good at. Find ways to use and grow your strengths. It is your opportunity for the greatest growth and success in your life.

18. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique, with your own skills, values, beliefs and circumstances. You may think everyone is better than you are, but you are only seeing the image they portray to others. Everyone has their own fears and weaknesses — after all, we’re all human. Be happy being you.

 

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My Story!

The years have gone by so fast and its not until I look back over everything that has happened that I realise I have been through a lot and achieved a lot too.

I got married at 21 and had my first child at 21, things were pretty good, six years later, after fertility treatment, I had my second child. Shortly after she was born I left my Husband because his behaviour was unreasonable and he did nothing but watch sport on the tv and shout at the kids.

I spent a few months on my own with the kids and it wasn’t long before I met someone new. Things moved along really quickly and it wasn’t long before he moved in. Things were going really well and he was great with the kids. After about 2 years he started to change and things became quiet difficult at times. He was a compulsive lier! Over the course of a 10 year relationship he left or had affairs numerous times but each time it didn’t work out he would come back, I would allow him to come back! He would start to call me constantly, then he would start with the suicide threats until I gave in. Each time he would promise to get help and sort himself out. The lies were incredible and his moods would change instantly. He put me in hospital once after he decided to beat me up. He told everyone that his dad sexually assaulted him on a train when he was a child and all sorts of other nonsense because he was an attention seeker and he basically didn’t know the difference between truth and lies.

When things were good, they were really good but when things were bad, they were really bad. During this time I had my third child, which was a real shock as I would told I would never have any more children unless I underwent more fertility treatment!

At the time we had a cake business that was doing really well. He was a smooth talker and a charmer so getting clients was easy for him. One day I receive a complaint that a birthday cake hadn’t arrived so I obviously questioned him about it, of course I got nothing but lies from him. He would go and see the clients and take the deposits, but he wasn’t putting it all through the books so the orders couldn’t be put through the books either. He started going out a lot and would disappear over night. One night he told me that he had been locked up for being drunk and disorderly, yet another lie. A couple of days later I got a call from a bride who was incredibly upset that her wedding cake hadn’t arrived!! There were no records of this order of course. This was my final tipping point, I had people arriving at my house because they hadn’t received orders and he wasn’t answering his phone. I called the police and reported what had happened, packed his stuff, left it outside and told him to collect it.

It was at this point I decided enough was enough and it was only me that could change all this. He was never going to have a hold over me again and neither was anyone else. Luckily for me neither of the kids dad’s were really interested in them so I never had to share them, they were just mine. Of course this meant they didn’t pay child maintenance or have them at all but I was very ok with this. It was them that kept me going.

I Decided to have my very first Tarot reading. He always joked “what do you think you are psychic” because I would know exactly when I would received the suicide threats. So I thought I would give it a go. I called a lovely lady called Trish who came to see me a few days later. I had a great reading with her and she really set me off on a new path. She confirmed that yes I was Psychic and I should be working as a healer. She initiated me into Reiki 1 and 2. I joined a spiritual group where I learned how to read Tarot and Angel cards, meditate and connect with my guides. I took a course in crystal healing and finished my Reiki master/teacher degree. I met some lovely people along my journey and I also met some not so lovely people. I had a really good clearing of all the things that didn’t serve me including friends and sadly one of my teachers as she had a very strange way of treating pupils that were doing really well for themselves. I got a job on Psychic Today and things were looking really good.

Within a few weeks of ending the relationship my youngest daughter had a horrific accident. My eldest daughter for some unknown reason lit a tea light candle and put it on the coffee table. My youngest daughter sat on the table not realising there was a candle on it and it set her dress alight, it was a dressing up dress which was highly flamable. I was downstairs at this time, we lived in a town house. My eldest daughter dragged her down the stairs with her dress alight and one of my friends dropped and rolled her and got her in a cold shower whilst we called the ambulance. She was taken to our local hospital and then rushed to a burns unit just over an hour away. The burns on her back were severe, her arms, bottom and hair were not as bad. She was in the hospital for 10 days and sent home. After a day at home she was rushed back in to under go surgery as she wasn’t healing and she had become infected. She had to have skin graphs on her back and was in hospital for another 5 days. My friends were great helping out with my other daughter, my son was pretty self sufficient at this time. Whist I was at the hospital I had a call from my friend telling me that my other daughter was really unwell. I left my youngest daughter for a few hours to check on my other daughter. I told her I would be back in a few hours. My other daughter was complaining of belly ache and rolling around on the floor. She was a proper drama queen, so I told her I was going to spend some time with her, she really didn’t need to roll around the floor. I though she was just a bit jealous as I hadn’t seen her much over the last 10 days. She carried on so I called the doctor, as I did she was very sick and it was green! They made an emergency appointment for me to take her straight in. The doctor checked her over and sent her straight to the Hospital with suspected appendicitis! The hospital took one look at her and she was in theatre within 15 minutes of arriving. When they came out to tell me how she was doing they informed me it was about to burst! She had only been unwell for a few hours, I was really shocked, I had no idea it could happen so fast. I now had to choose which daughter to spend the night with, in which hospital and in which county!

My eldest was released the following afternoon and went straight to my mums so that I could go back to the other hospital and be with my youngest. My youngest recovered well, the skin graphs took and I did lots of Reiki and massage with her. The doctors were impressed at the speed she was recovering. We had to go to the hospital 3 times a week to change dressings, eventually it went down to two, then one and after a year we didn’t have to go back. The trips were taking up most of my time as it was 90 minutes each way and would just get back in time to get my other two from school.

I continued my study and focused on just me and kids. I put everything I learned into practice. I used gratitude and forgiveness on a daily basis to help me to leave the past behind me and focus on my present moment. I was learning so much and I wanted to share all of this with my clients so I took a life coaching course and many other courses so that I could build programs and session to help my friends and my clients.

After four years of my friends nagging me to get out and meet people (I do like my own company and am perfectly happy on my own) I gave in and let one of my friends build me a profile on an internet dating site. It was fun for about an hour but it really didn’t sit right with me so I asked her to take it down. I would find another way to meet someone. I had read the book the secret and studied the law of attraction and cosmic ordering, so I thought it would be a great idea to cosmically order my perfect partner. So I did and 3 weeks later he arrived!! He has two children so my family has grown from 4 to 7, it can be very hectic when we are all together. I will tell you more about this in another article.

We went on holiday to Rome, it was fantastic, we loved it. We talked a lot when we got back about how lovely it would be to move to Italy, but we had no idea how we could make this happen. A year later we took my daughters to Rome and at that point we decided we were moving to Italy! We had no idea where in Italy we were moving to but we were moving. 8 months later we moved here! I will share with you exactly how we manifested this in another article.

I now have my dream home, my perfect partner and everything else I want, but that doesn’t mean life is always easy! Since we moved here back in July mother nature has certainly had something to say about it. Within 4 weeks of being here we experienced our first earthquake, and have had many, many more since. They hadn’t had an earthquake in this part of Italy for nearly 20 years! Then we experienced the Sirocco winds that tore though our land and finally this month more snow than ever. So to say thing have been exciting here is an understatement!

Life hasn’t always been easy and I have been through my fair share of difficult times but that isn’t going to stop me getting what I want and helping other make major changes in their lives too. My mum will tell you I am one of the unluckiest people ever because nothing ever goes right or doesn’t happen easily, the way I planned or without problems. But I still make it happen!

If you would like to know more about my programs and packages to help you leave the past behind you and create a life you are excited about then please visit my website.

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The Benefits of Taking Stock of Your Life

Taking stock is about finding personal happiness and discovering your life purpose.

tcloudMake some time where you can really think about where you are and whats happening around you at the moment. You need to sometimes give yourself time to step back and evaluate things, otherwise the day to day stuff will overwhelm.

You are the owner of your life – so take an overview every so often – make sure you are planning and heading where you want to go – not just living the day to day just keeping your head above water.

 

 

Consider these things:

  • What are you PUTTING UP WITH at the moment?
  • What do you think you should be doing right now, professionally and personally?
  • What things are frustrating you about yourself, your life, Health, Work, Others?
  • What do you REALLY, REALLY WANT right now in your personal and/or professional life?
  • How do your currently feel? How do you want to feel?

 

Also look at things around you like your home, work, office, health etc and make a list for each area of things that need to be done.

For example look at your home, go around each and every part of your house noting down anything that you can see that needs sorting out. Here are some examples:

  • DIY that needs doing
  • Cleaning jobs that have not been done for a while
  • Mending things
  • Sorting and clearing out rooms/cupboards etc…
  • Charity run / Tip run
  • Filing pile building up

Its probable that these things are playing on your mind, causing frustration, upset etc.

Take time to sit down and give some thought to whats fallen by the wayside in your life:-

  • Getting social dates in the diary with friends and family
  • Booking things that you want to do in the coming months
  • Revamping your weekly schedule
  • Giving time for fitness
  • Starting a new hobby or gaining a qualification

This can become a very long list (especially if you are really thorough and consider every little thing) – but the key is to see exactly what needs doing, and then you can more easily do something about it.

Think of it as a complete overhaul of your Master to do list – which can be forgotten sometimes when life gets in the way. It can become outdated quickly at times.

The benefits of taking action

I know this is asking you to take time out of what is usually a hectic and busy schedule – but the argument for taking stock every so often far outweighs the argument for not doing so.

If you can take stock of your life – there are so many benefits:-

  • You gain a better perspective on whats niggling you constantly
  • You can start to add these items as “TO DOs” into your diary – one a day would be a great place to star
  • You can see what you can delegate to others to get through things more quickly
  • You have a better understanding of where you are, and where you want/need to be
  • You gain more head space as you aren’t constantly thinking about things that need to be done

Taking Action

Now you have a long list of things to do prioritise them. What are the most important tasks? which ones aren’t so urgent and which ones can be left.

All these things can so easily swamp your mind if they aren’t dealt with– so take some time out get on top of things once and for all.

101 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Starting 2017!

“Successful People Reflect On Their Progress Before They Start The New Year”

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Reflect On The 9 Most Important Parts Of Your Life

Some People Asked Me How Do I Reflect, So I Took Some Time And I Have Listed Some Questions I Ask Myself To Reflect Every Year 😉 I Hope It Helps You 😉

Take 1 Hour In Peace  To Go Over The Following List Before You Start Taking Action In 2017, It Can Make All The Difference To Create A Successful Year!

What Did I Learn In 2016 ? What Did I Achieve In 2016?
How Does This Make Me Feel?

What Did I Learn From Failure And Success?
What Am I Proud Of?

Where Am I Balanced And Unbalanced In My Life?

What Do I Want To Improve In 2017?

What Do I Want To Achieve In 2017?

What Were My 5 Biggest Strengths In 2016?

What Are My 3 Weaknesses That I Can Improve To Perform Better?

Am I Happy About My Result?
What Am I Not Happy About And Why?

How Can I Make It Better?

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1. My Health

Did My Health Improve In 2016?

Did I Gain Weight Or Lose Weight?

Did I Improve My Stamina? How Was My Eating Habit, Healthy Or Unhealthy?

How Many Times I Exercise A Week? Did I Follow My Health Plan?

Is My Body Getting All The Right Nutrition? Did I Feel Energetic, Younger Or Older In 2016?

How Did I Deal With Stress? Whats My Health Goal For 2017?

2. My Surroundings

Who Are The 5-10 People I Spend The Most Time With In 2016?

Are They Bringing Me Up Or Down? Are They Mostly Negative Or Positive?

Are They Big Thinkers Or Small Thinkers? Do We Have Unconditional Love Or Conditional Love?

How Much Are They Earning A Month? Are They Working On Themselves Every Day To Create A Better Life?

Did I Make New Positive Friends In 2016 That Encourage Me To Follow My Dreams? Help Me To Think Bigger? Give Me A Vision Of Better Life?

How Can I Improve My Surrounding In 2017?

3. Self Education

What Books Did I Read In 2016 That Made A Positive Impact In My Life? What Self-Help Seminars Did I Attend? What Tapes I Listen To That Empower Me?

Am I Reading The Right Books To Bring Me To The Goal I Want To Achieve?

Am I Waiting For Somebody To Inspire Me Or Do I Inspire Myself?

Which People Did I Learn The Most From?

What Do I Want To Learn In 2017?

4. Money Management

How Did I Manage My Money In 2016? Did I Had A Plan? Did I Save? Invest Back In My Business?

Did I Give Charity?

What Is My Plan For 2017?

What Is My Plan To Protect My Wealth From Inflation?

Is My Money Working For Me?

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5. Business Skills

How Did I Follow My Business Plan In 2016?

Am I Doing The Business As A Hobby Or As A Business?

Did I Keep Gauges? What Did I Learn From My Gauges?
Is This Number Going To Bring Me Where I Want To Go?
How Can I Improve This Number?

What Business Skill Do I Want To Learn In 2017?

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6. Love And Relationships

How Loved Did I Feel In 2016?
How Did I Show My Love To My Friends, Family And My Love?

Did I Spend Quality Time With My Friends And Family In 2016?

Did I Love Myself In 2016? How Did I Practice Self Love?

Did I Easily Forgive Myself In 2016?

What Do I Still Carry With Me That I Want To Let Go Before I Start 2017?
Did I Forgive Others?

How Did I Practice Forgiveness?

Take Time To Forgive Now And Let Go 😉 Did I Love Conditionally Or Unconditionally?

What Do I Want To Improve In My Relationships And Love Life For 2017?

What Goals Do I Have Regarding Family, Love And Friends In 2017?

How Can I Make My Relationships More Fulfilling?

7. My Emotions

Did I Spend Most Of My Time Thinking Negative, Blaming, Complaining What I Do Not Have? Living In Fear? Concerned About What Other People Think?

Or Did I Spend Most Of My Time Being Grateful, Focusing On The Good I Have And The Future I Can Build? Helping Others?

What Emotions Do I Want To Have The Most In 2017?

8. My Habits

What Daily Habits Help Me To Create A Better Life And Growing Business?

What Negative Habits Holding Me Back?

What New Empowering Habits I Can Create For 2017?

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9. Spirituality

Did I Take Time To Sit Quite And Meditate?
How Can I Do This More In 2017?

Was I At Peace With Myself?  Or Was My Mind Too Busy?
How Can I Be More At Peace With Myself In The World In 2017?

Did I Take Time To Connect With God/The Universe?
How Can I Connect More With The Universe/God?

Do I Feel Lonely Most Of The Time Or Can I Be Happy With Myself?
How Can I Be More Happy With Myself In 2017?

Do I Have Faith Or Do Worry Too Much?
Do I Act Out Of Love Or Out Of Fear?

Did I Follow My Heart? Did I Follow My Intuition?
Am I Doing My Passion?
Following My Hearts Desire?

Am I Spending Time Quite In Nature?

Am I Grateful Everyday For The Simple Things In Life?  Am I Happy In The Now?
Was I Flowing In The Present Or Always In The Future With My Mind?
How Can I Be More Present In 2017?

What Daily Habits Can I Create In 2017 To Be More Present, More In The Flow With Nature, More At Peace With Myself And More Connected With God?

What New Empowering Habits I Can Create For 2017?

Commitment:

What Am I Committed To Change And Improve And Why?

Do I Need A Mentor or A Coach?

My Why:

What Is My BIG WHY To Improve My Life?

–> If You Are Serious About Creating An Amazing 2017 Get Yourself A Success Planner And Make All Your New Year Resolutions A Reality 😉

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The 12 Months Law Of Attraction Planner Super A5 And B5 Size Is Now In Stock!

What Is Different From The 30 Day Law Of Attraction Planner?

We Added A Few New Features To The 12 Month Weekly Planner:

  • Out Foldable Vision Board And Goals, So You Can Stay Focused On Your Year Goals
  • When You Fill In Your Week Plan (See Picture Below)
  • My Most Important Life Goals Section – Helps You To Create Harmonic Goals
  • Plan Your Journey – Helps You Plan Your Success On All Levels
  • How Will I Make It Happen Section
  • Monthly Reflection Page
  • Monthly Overview, Goals And Priorities
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  • 24 Blank Pages To Draw Or Write Down Ideas
  • Monthly 2 Dot Gridded Ideas And Notes Pages
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Creative Vision Boarding

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What is a vision board?

In the most basic terms a vision board is a collage of pictures, quotes, words and affirmations that represent the life you want to be living.

Why would you want to create a vision board?

The answer is very simple, to help you create or manifest your dreams and desires. You can use your vision board to create success in any area of your life including relationships, career, health, wealth etc.

Vision boards are extremely easy to create and once completed are incredibly powerful. A vision board is a way of creating clarity about the kind of life you want to live. It is a story in pictures and words. By making your vision board and looking it at it multiple times a day you focus your attention on what you want to attract most into your life. A vision board takes the ideas out of your head and puts the desires in front of you and gives it feelings and emotions.

Your vision board can cover any area you choose, it can be split into every area of your life on one board or you can have a different board for each area of your life i.e. one for career, one for family and relationship and one for health, the choice is yours.

When creating your vision board there are lots of things to take into account like clarity, practicality, value, reality and effort. Let’s take a look at the basic ingredients for creating a vision board that is going to manifest the life you want.

The basic ingredients for your vision board

There are a few basic ingredients which help your vision board become the most powerful manifesting tool you have ever created.

  • Goals, dreams, desires
  • Intention
  • Visualisation
  • Beliefs
  • Affirmations
  • Meditation
  • Positive action
  • Gratitude

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We will look at each of these in turn before we start to create our own vision boards. But before we begin here are a few rules to help you create the vision board of your dreams.

Basic rules for your vision board

Clarity – What is the most important thing for you? What is success for you? Only place things on the vision board that resonate with you otherwise there will be conflicts.

Money, fame, investments, health, family? Spend time working out your true desires, how you value them and be clear about what it is that you do want. Try writing down what success means to you.

Value – we can only manifest the things we value i.e.

Energy – how much time and effort are you willing to put in to obtaining your dreams? If your dreams mean working 80 hours a week, are you willing to do that? If you get the huge house of your dreams are you willing to put in the effort to work to pay the huge bills, or spend hours doing the house work?

Reality – reality is key to manifestation. Be realistic with your wishes, dreams and goals so that when you do manifest them they don’t take over your life, i.e. keeping up with bill payments for them or extra house work. Be practical, take your earnings into account so there are no extra problems caused.

Emotion – always include emotion, happiness, joy, wellbeing and the feeling of already having these things in your life. (Please read my article on the law of attraction)

Your vision board should be all encompassing – need, desire and feelings are key to manifesting your desires, when we need and desire something they line up and come to fruition. Clarity is key to our success, if clarity is not reached we are setting ourselves up for a fall, so really get specific with exactly what you want. Your feelings and emotions are also key in you being able to manifest these dreams and desires, you need to be able to feel what it feels like to already have this in your life.

Common mistakes

Don’t place luck on your vision board –

Its not all about material gain –

The things you place on your vision board are just for you.

Making one doesn’t make things happen – you need to put your own energy into it to help bring things forward.

Only put on there things you want or believe in – not things you think you should want, no just because.

Include lifestyle, happiness and reality

Make sure you are ready to work for what you want

Never put anything on there that make you feel worse about yourself.

Always include

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  • Money if you need it
  • Specifics / details
  • Lifestyles
  • Objects
  • Emotions
  • Background
  • Present

Goals, dreams and desires

You can use your vision board to help manifest goals and dreams of any size. Whether it is a new life partner, a dream house, better health or a new car, however small or large you must have a crystal clear vision of what it is that you desire.

When we set our goals and dreams it is important they we really want what it is we are dreaming about. Dreaming of a large country house is great but if your brain is saying well I could never keep up with the house work you are adding negativity towards it, which will stop it from manifesting. Or a brand new car and your brain is saying how am I going to pay the petrol and running costs you have added negativity towards it.

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Anchoring The Nlp Secret To Self Confidence

NLP anchoring is one of the most popular NLP techniques out there because of its power and immediate impact. With it you can choose to deliberately put yourself in any chosen state such as being happy, confident, cheerful, creative, calm etc in the blink of an eye. NLP anchoring also gives you the chance to create your own anchors and to create them in other people as well.
So how does anchoring work?
Someone has an intense emotional experience and at some point during that experience a specific stimulus is applied creating a neurological link between that stimulus and emotion. A negative example of this would be a woman whose husband has died. As those who attend his funeral pass they touch her on her arm while giving her their condolences. Weeks after the funeral the woman will
only have to be touched on the arm for those feelings of grief to come back to her.
The stimulus could be anything from a touch to a tone of voice (how dose it feel when that certain person tells you that they love you with that certain tone of voice?) to the tapping of a pencil on a table top. The important thing is that it is used at a certain point of the experience and that it is suitably unique when there is strong emotional stimulation so the two get associated with each other.
Let’s try an exercise in developing instant self confidence:
Think of a time when you were totally confident, you felt powerful and there was no doubt in your mind. As those feelings come back to you they will peak and subside. Start clenching your fist, pinch your left palm in a specific way, or any other anchor you wish to apply. Fire off the anchor a few more times as long as you are still in that peak state. . Repeat this a few times and then test it by using the anchor you set. If you’ve done it right you should feel a welling up of those same emotions.  This is how simple it is.  See what a difference anchoring can make to your life? Imagine firing off this confidence anchor whenever you are feeling a little unsure of yourself.
You can also do this to other people. The same principles apply.
The effectiveness of the anchor depends on the strength of the emotional experience, the uniqueness of the anchor and the number of times it is repeated.
This article covers the very basics of anchoring a good practitioner course will give you many powerful anchoring techniques and applications.
If you could anchor yourself to states of extreme confidence, power and motivation that you could then fire off at any time you wanted what would be different about your life? Imagine being able to do the same to the people around you. Would this increase your power as a business leader or manager? How about doing it to your children as a parent? The possibilities are endless.
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Get Rid of Procrastination, Now!

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Do you put off your work for later, only to find your deadlines steadily creeping in? Then you, are one of the millions of people afflicted by the procrastination virus. Procrastination is the biggest reason for loss of productivity and late output. Though many would not admit it, they would benefit greatly if they start their work on time.

For many people, putting off their work for later is more habit than desire. It can be so hard to get into a groove where starting your tasks in a timely fashion is a priority, especially if the consequences for being late are things that one can probably bear.

If you are one of these people, yet you desire to shake off your propensity for procrastination, then you have come to the right place. Here are a few tips to help you overcome this dilemma and become a more productive and reliable person.

  1. Set schedules – It is very important that you have a list of activities to accomplish per day. This will help you realistically budget your time and resources. One of the cardinal sins people commit in regards to performing their tasks is to put off their work because they feel like there is so much time left. A journal, organizer, or calendar of events will help you plan and schedule your task so that you can start them promptly and finish them on time.
  1. Save the Vacation for Later – Many people put their work off for later saying, “I’ll just have a little fun then buckle down to work later.” While it may be true that they may have more than enough time to accomplish their tasks, it would be better if they finished their work first and relax afterwards.

Wouldn’t relaxation be sweeter if it were after a taxing job? If you choose to lay back and relax before doing your tasks, you will be more prone to burnout and will have nothing exciting left to look forward to after accomplishing a task. It is always better to have a slack period AFTER a job than before one.

  1. Never Underestimate Your Tasks – Sometimes procrastination sets in because people underestimate the resources, difficulty, and time spent for a particular task. They will usually say, “It’s just mowing the lawn, its easy; I could do it in a jiffy.” The problem is, no matter how trivial the task, it still takes time and resources to accomplish. If you underestimate a task, you will most likely set too little time to do it and schedule it too close to its deadline.
  1. Don’t Allow Yourself to Get Comfortable Doing Nothing – It would definitely help if you kept a subconscious alarm whenever you are doing nothing. Get this alarm to remind you of things that may need to be done. This will help you foster the notion that jobs accomplished now means more time for relaxation later. However, even if this is the case, do not forget to put ample time in for rest and to remove all thoughts of troubles before hitting the sack. The trick here, however, is not to overdo your rest. There is a difference between resting and idling. Always set the right amount of time for rest and stick to that schedule.