18 simple tips to help you feel better about yourself and build you self confidence today.

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There are very few people who could call themselves perfect and be right. Most of us need to build our self confidence, but the majority of us either ignore the issues or concentrate on the negatives: stress, worry, jobs, money problems and relationship issues. Concentrating on these areas drains our self confidence rather than improving it.

If you could improve your self confidence you could make more money, look and feel better physically, or just be more relaxed with other people. Below there are five simple techniques that have been proven to help build self confidence today.

1.Talk to yourself. It sounds crazy but it works. All of us have a running monologue constantly in our heads, whether we realise it or not. Everything we see, hear, or touch sparks off an immediate dialog in our thoughts.

For those who lack confidence this monologue is filled with negative messages, many of which are the negative side of adverts from television, radio, newspapers, and just overhearing other people talk.

These negative thoughts literally suck energy from our minds and bodies and block the flow of positive messages. We need to hear the positive messages as they will build self confidence and raise our self esteem. Take control. Use your inner thoughts to talk to yourself in a positive manner, as often as you can.

As an example one of my regular sayings is “I like myself, I like myself, I like myself”. I just repeat it for a couple of minutes. It sounds cheesy, but does build self confidence – Try it. I bet that if you go to the mirror right now and repeat out loud “I like myself!” 50 times, it will be impossible to not smile.

2.Dress smartly and as classy as you can. You wont feel at your best if you don’t look your best. You will be amazed at just how much more confidence you will have just looking your best. It feels good when you are wearing your best clothes, are well groomed, and are surrounded by a clean environment. So what if it is Saturday, you need to build self confidence today not next week. Put on your nice clothes, get the car washed, style that hair! A hairdresser once told me “Everyday is show time!”

3.Give Thanks. Increase your self esteem even more by giving thanks to what you are, how you look, and what you are doing. Say “thank you” to yourself, to everything you see, everyone you meet, and each smile that you receive.

4.Stand or sit correctly: How you stand sends out a message to the World, and in turn, back to you. This results in improving how you feel about yourself and will build self confidence today and every day.

There is scientific evidence that shows how posture affects our mood. Do not slouch. Slouching produces a down mood. By slouching you are telling the world and yourself it doesn’t matter, you don’t matter. Standing tall and upright will actually lift your mood. Help build up your confidence by pulling back those shoulders, stop that slouch, and walk proud.

5.Smile. Just smile and things seem better somehow. Practice smiling regularly and get your facial muscles used to the physical act of smiling.

Go to the mirror and smile – make yourself. Not a grimace, but a proper smile. If you don’t think you can try this:

1)Open your eyes as wide as you can – (try and get your eyebrows right up to you hair line)
2)Slightly open your mouth
3)Pull the corners of your mouth back towards your ears (If your not sure pull them back with your fingers so you know what it feels like then try again without your fingers).
4)Repeat 50 times. Get your facial muscles used to smiling and you will smile more and encourage smiles from others. This will make you feel happier and with that you’ll build self confidence today.

6. Think positive. keep your thought positive. Your thoughts and feelings create your reality (Law of Attraction) It is impossible to monitor every though but when you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts think about something positive, a positive event or person and how you felt at that time.

7. Act positive. More than just thinking positively, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Acting in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can’t, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You’ll soon start to notice a difference.

8. Get to know yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. You can’t defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you’re trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analysing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you’ll come out (eventually) with even greater self-confidence.
9. Know your principles and live them. What are the principles upon which your life is built? If you don’t know, you will have trouble, because your life will feel directionless. Think about your principles … you might have them but perhaps you haven’t given them much thought. Now think about whether you actually live these principles, or if you just believe in them but don’t act on them.
 
10. Increase competence. How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent. And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. If you want to be a more competent writer, for example, don’t try to tackle the entire profession of writing all at once. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. The more you write, the better you’ll be. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write, and the practice will increase your competence.
 
11. Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail because they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal youknow you can achieve, and then achieve it. You’ll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you’ll be at it, and the better you’ll feel. Soon you’ll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.

12. Change a small habit. Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. When you’ve accomplished it, you’ll feel like a million dollars. (check out the daily success habits in this course).

13. Be grateful. I’m a firm believer in gratitude. I put it here because while being grateful for what you have in life, for what others have given you, is a very humbling activity … it can also be a very positive and rewarding activity that will improve your self-image. Also, the more gratitude you send out the more the universe will send you to be grateful for. There is a whole section on gratitude later in the course.

14. Who inspires you. We often have role models or people we admire. It could be their image, their energy, their people skills, leadership skills, the way they make life seem so easy and uncomplicated or something else. Whatever Inspires you, think about who you would like to be by considering what it is in others that you admire and aspire to. If you can see it in others, you already have that quality in you.

15. Write an achievement list. If you look back at your life, what have you already achieved? Go back to school time writing down the exams you passed, the jobs you had, the friendships you made, experiences you had and so on. You will be surprised at how much you have already achieved, and sometimes it is not until we write it down that we can actually see how successful we have already been.

16.Spend time with people who make you feel good. You are already fabulous, it doesn’t hurt to keep being reminded!

Find people that inspire you, find out what they are doing to create successful lives, follow them on Facebook or twitter, read their blogs, books etc. Spend time with happy, successful people. People that make you feel good, encourage you to be the best you can be. Learn from them. These people will naturally boost your confidence. ( as discussed in finding your support team).

17. Boost your strengths. Do more of the things you are good at. Find ways to use and grow your strengths. It is your opportunity for the greatest growth and success in your life.

18. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique, with your own skills, values, beliefs and circumstances. You may think everyone is better than you are, but you are only seeing the image they portray to others. Everyone has their own fears and weaknesses — after all, we’re all human. Be happy being you.

 

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My Story!

The years have gone by so fast and its not until I look back over everything that has happened that I realise I have been through a lot and achieved a lot too.

I got married at 21 and had my first child at 21, things were pretty good, six years later, after fertility treatment, I had my second child. Shortly after she was born I left my Husband because his behaviour was unreasonable and he did nothing but watch sport on the tv and shout at the kids.

I spent a few months on my own with the kids and it wasn’t long before I met someone new. Things moved along really quickly and it wasn’t long before he moved in. Things were going really well and he was great with the kids. After about 2 years he started to change and things became quiet difficult at times. He was a compulsive lier! Over the course of a 10 year relationship he left or had affairs numerous times but each time it didn’t work out he would come back, I would allow him to come back! He would start to call me constantly, then he would start with the suicide threats until I gave in. Each time he would promise to get help and sort himself out. The lies were incredible and his moods would change instantly. He put me in hospital once after he decided to beat me up. He told everyone that his dad sexually assaulted him on a train when he was a child and all sorts of other nonsense because he was an attention seeker and he basically didn’t know the difference between truth and lies.

When things were good, they were really good but when things were bad, they were really bad. During this time I had my third child, which was a real shock as I would told I would never have any more children unless I underwent more fertility treatment!

At the time we had a cake business that was doing really well. He was a smooth talker and a charmer so getting clients was easy for him. One day I receive a complaint that a birthday cake hadn’t arrived so I obviously questioned him about it, of course I got nothing but lies from him. He would go and see the clients and take the deposits, but he wasn’t putting it all through the books so the orders couldn’t be put through the books either. He started going out a lot and would disappear over night. One night he told me that he had been locked up for being drunk and disorderly, yet another lie. A couple of days later I got a call from a bride who was incredibly upset that her wedding cake hadn’t arrived!! There were no records of this order of course. This was my final tipping point, I had people arriving at my house because they hadn’t received orders and he wasn’t answering his phone. I called the police and reported what had happened, packed his stuff, left it outside and told him to collect it.

It was at this point I decided enough was enough and it was only me that could change all this. He was never going to have a hold over me again and neither was anyone else. Luckily for me neither of the kids dad’s were really interested in them so I never had to share them, they were just mine. Of course this meant they didn’t pay child maintenance or have them at all but I was very ok with this. It was them that kept me going.

I Decided to have my very first Tarot reading. He always joked “what do you think you are psychic” because I would know exactly when I would received the suicide threats. So I thought I would give it a go. I called a lovely lady called Trish who came to see me a few days later. I had a great reading with her and she really set me off on a new path. She confirmed that yes I was Psychic and I should be working as a healer. She initiated me into Reiki 1 and 2. I joined a spiritual group where I learned how to read Tarot and Angel cards, meditate and connect with my guides. I took a course in crystal healing and finished my Reiki master/teacher degree. I met some lovely people along my journey and I also met some not so lovely people. I had a really good clearing of all the things that didn’t serve me including friends and sadly one of my teachers as she had a very strange way of treating pupils that were doing really well for themselves. I got a job on Psychic Today and things were looking really good.

Within a few weeks of ending the relationship my youngest daughter had a horrific accident. My eldest daughter for some unknown reason lit a tea light candle and put it on the coffee table. My youngest daughter sat on the table not realising there was a candle on it and it set her dress alight, it was a dressing up dress which was highly flamable. I was downstairs at this time, we lived in a town house. My eldest daughter dragged her down the stairs with her dress alight and one of my friends dropped and rolled her and got her in a cold shower whilst we called the ambulance. She was taken to our local hospital and then rushed to a burns unit just over an hour away. The burns on her back were severe, her arms, bottom and hair were not as bad. She was in the hospital for 10 days and sent home. After a day at home she was rushed back in to under go surgery as she wasn’t healing and she had become infected. She had to have skin graphs on her back and was in hospital for another 5 days. My friends were great helping out with my other daughter, my son was pretty self sufficient at this time. Whist I was at the hospital I had a call from my friend telling me that my other daughter was really unwell. I left my youngest daughter for a few hours to check on my other daughter. I told her I would be back in a few hours. My other daughter was complaining of belly ache and rolling around on the floor. She was a proper drama queen, so I told her I was going to spend some time with her, she really didn’t need to roll around the floor. I though she was just a bit jealous as I hadn’t seen her much over the last 10 days. She carried on so I called the doctor, as I did she was very sick and it was green! They made an emergency appointment for me to take her straight in. The doctor checked her over and sent her straight to the Hospital with suspected appendicitis! The hospital took one look at her and she was in theatre within 15 minutes of arriving. When they came out to tell me how she was doing they informed me it was about to burst! She had only been unwell for a few hours, I was really shocked, I had no idea it could happen so fast. I now had to choose which daughter to spend the night with, in which hospital and in which county!

My eldest was released the following afternoon and went straight to my mums so that I could go back to the other hospital and be with my youngest. My youngest recovered well, the skin graphs took and I did lots of Reiki and massage with her. The doctors were impressed at the speed she was recovering. We had to go to the hospital 3 times a week to change dressings, eventually it went down to two, then one and after a year we didn’t have to go back. The trips were taking up most of my time as it was 90 minutes each way and would just get back in time to get my other two from school.

I continued my study and focused on just me and kids. I put everything I learned into practice. I used gratitude and forgiveness on a daily basis to help me to leave the past behind me and focus on my present moment. I was learning so much and I wanted to share all of this with my clients so I took a life coaching course and many other courses so that I could build programs and session to help my friends and my clients.

After four years of my friends nagging me to get out and meet people (I do like my own company and am perfectly happy on my own) I gave in and let one of my friends build me a profile on an internet dating site. It was fun for about an hour but it really didn’t sit right with me so I asked her to take it down. I would find another way to meet someone. I had read the book the secret and studied the law of attraction and cosmic ordering, so I thought it would be a great idea to cosmically order my perfect partner. So I did and 3 weeks later he arrived!! He has two children so my family has grown from 4 to 7, it can be very hectic when we are all together. I will tell you more about this in another article.

We went on holiday to Rome, it was fantastic, we loved it. We talked a lot when we got back about how lovely it would be to move to Italy, but we had no idea how we could make this happen. A year later we took my daughters to Rome and at that point we decided we were moving to Italy! We had no idea where in Italy we were moving to but we were moving. 8 months later we moved here! I will share with you exactly how we manifested this in another article.

I now have my dream home, my perfect partner and everything else I want, but that doesn’t mean life is always easy! Since we moved here back in July mother nature has certainly had something to say about it. Within 4 weeks of being here we experienced our first earthquake, and have had many, many more since. They hadn’t had an earthquake in this part of Italy for nearly 20 years! Then we experienced the Sirocco winds that tore though our land and finally this month more snow than ever. So to say thing have been exciting here is an understatement!

Life hasn’t always been easy and I have been through my fair share of difficult times but that isn’t going to stop me getting what I want and helping other make major changes in their lives too. My mum will tell you I am one of the unluckiest people ever because nothing ever goes right or doesn’t happen easily, the way I planned or without problems. But I still make it happen!

If you would like to know more about my programs and packages to help you leave the past behind you and create a life you are excited about then please visit my website.

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101 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Starting 2017!

“Successful People Reflect On Their Progress Before They Start The New Year”

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Reflect On The 9 Most Important Parts Of Your Life

Some People Asked Me How Do I Reflect, So I Took Some Time And I Have Listed Some Questions I Ask Myself To Reflect Every Year 😉 I Hope It Helps You 😉

Take 1 Hour In Peace  To Go Over The Following List Before You Start Taking Action In 2017, It Can Make All The Difference To Create A Successful Year!

What Did I Learn In 2016 ? What Did I Achieve In 2016?
How Does This Make Me Feel?

What Did I Learn From Failure And Success?
What Am I Proud Of?

Where Am I Balanced And Unbalanced In My Life?

What Do I Want To Improve In 2017?

What Do I Want To Achieve In 2017?

What Were My 5 Biggest Strengths In 2016?

What Are My 3 Weaknesses That I Can Improve To Perform Better?

Am I Happy About My Result?
What Am I Not Happy About And Why?

How Can I Make It Better?

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1. My Health

Did My Health Improve In 2016?

Did I Gain Weight Or Lose Weight?

Did I Improve My Stamina? How Was My Eating Habit, Healthy Or Unhealthy?

How Many Times I Exercise A Week? Did I Follow My Health Plan?

Is My Body Getting All The Right Nutrition? Did I Feel Energetic, Younger Or Older In 2016?

How Did I Deal With Stress? Whats My Health Goal For 2017?

2. My Surroundings

Who Are The 5-10 People I Spend The Most Time With In 2016?

Are They Bringing Me Up Or Down? Are They Mostly Negative Or Positive?

Are They Big Thinkers Or Small Thinkers? Do We Have Unconditional Love Or Conditional Love?

How Much Are They Earning A Month? Are They Working On Themselves Every Day To Create A Better Life?

Did I Make New Positive Friends In 2016 That Encourage Me To Follow My Dreams? Help Me To Think Bigger? Give Me A Vision Of Better Life?

How Can I Improve My Surrounding In 2017?

3. Self Education

What Books Did I Read In 2016 That Made A Positive Impact In My Life? What Self-Help Seminars Did I Attend? What Tapes I Listen To That Empower Me?

Am I Reading The Right Books To Bring Me To The Goal I Want To Achieve?

Am I Waiting For Somebody To Inspire Me Or Do I Inspire Myself?

Which People Did I Learn The Most From?

What Do I Want To Learn In 2017?

4. Money Management

How Did I Manage My Money In 2016? Did I Had A Plan? Did I Save? Invest Back In My Business?

Did I Give Charity?

What Is My Plan For 2017?

What Is My Plan To Protect My Wealth From Inflation?

Is My Money Working For Me?

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5. Business Skills

How Did I Follow My Business Plan In 2016?

Am I Doing The Business As A Hobby Or As A Business?

Did I Keep Gauges? What Did I Learn From My Gauges?
Is This Number Going To Bring Me Where I Want To Go?
How Can I Improve This Number?

What Business Skill Do I Want To Learn In 2017?

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6. Love And Relationships

How Loved Did I Feel In 2016?
How Did I Show My Love To My Friends, Family And My Love?

Did I Spend Quality Time With My Friends And Family In 2016?

Did I Love Myself In 2016? How Did I Practice Self Love?

Did I Easily Forgive Myself In 2016?

What Do I Still Carry With Me That I Want To Let Go Before I Start 2017?
Did I Forgive Others?

How Did I Practice Forgiveness?

Take Time To Forgive Now And Let Go 😉 Did I Love Conditionally Or Unconditionally?

What Do I Want To Improve In My Relationships And Love Life For 2017?

What Goals Do I Have Regarding Family, Love And Friends In 2017?

How Can I Make My Relationships More Fulfilling?

7. My Emotions

Did I Spend Most Of My Time Thinking Negative, Blaming, Complaining What I Do Not Have? Living In Fear? Concerned About What Other People Think?

Or Did I Spend Most Of My Time Being Grateful, Focusing On The Good I Have And The Future I Can Build? Helping Others?

What Emotions Do I Want To Have The Most In 2017?

8. My Habits

What Daily Habits Help Me To Create A Better Life And Growing Business?

What Negative Habits Holding Me Back?

What New Empowering Habits I Can Create For 2017?

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9. Spirituality

Did I Take Time To Sit Quite And Meditate?
How Can I Do This More In 2017?

Was I At Peace With Myself?  Or Was My Mind Too Busy?
How Can I Be More At Peace With Myself In The World In 2017?

Did I Take Time To Connect With God/The Universe?
How Can I Connect More With The Universe/God?

Do I Feel Lonely Most Of The Time Or Can I Be Happy With Myself?
How Can I Be More Happy With Myself In 2017?

Do I Have Faith Or Do Worry Too Much?
Do I Act Out Of Love Or Out Of Fear?

Did I Follow My Heart? Did I Follow My Intuition?
Am I Doing My Passion?
Following My Hearts Desire?

Am I Spending Time Quite In Nature?

Am I Grateful Everyday For The Simple Things In Life?  Am I Happy In The Now?
Was I Flowing In The Present Or Always In The Future With My Mind?
How Can I Be More Present In 2017?

What Daily Habits Can I Create In 2017 To Be More Present, More In The Flow With Nature, More At Peace With Myself And More Connected With God?

What New Empowering Habits I Can Create For 2017?

Commitment:

What Am I Committed To Change And Improve And Why?

Do I Need A Mentor or A Coach?

My Why:

What Is My BIG WHY To Improve My Life?

–> If You Are Serious About Creating An Amazing 2017 Get Yourself A Success Planner And Make All Your New Year Resolutions A Reality 😉

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A 12 Month Law Of Attraction Planner For Him & Her

The 12 Months Law Of Attraction Planner Super A5 And B5 Size Is Now In Stock!

What Is Different From The 30 Day Law Of Attraction Planner?

We Added A Few New Features To The 12 Month Weekly Planner:

  • Out Foldable Vision Board And Goals, So You Can Stay Focused On Your Year Goals
  • When You Fill In Your Week Plan (See Picture Below)
  • My Most Important Life Goals Section – Helps You To Create Harmonic Goals
  • Plan Your Journey – Helps You Plan Your Success On All Levels
  • How Will I Make It Happen Section
  • Monthly Reflection Page
  • Monthly Overview, Goals And Priorities
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  • Monthly 2 Dot Gridded Ideas And Notes Pages
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The Law of Attraction

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The law of attraction is the universal law that says “ like attracts like”, and that by using this process we can bring into our lives the things that we want. Every thought we have goes out into the universe and the universe brings us back what we have thought about, whether that thought is negative or positive. The universe cannot distinguish between the things we want and the things we don’t, it just reacts to the thought patterns we have.

Einstein proved that everything in the universe is made of energy and this energy vibrates on different frequencies. The law of attraction is one of the most powerful universal laws this law states that whatever we send out to the universe we get back, like attracts like. So if we are sending out negative thoughts and emotions we will get back more negative thoughts and emotions. If we send out positive thoughts and emotions we will get back positive thoughts and emotions. Our thoughts have a frequency and are magnetic, as we think our thoughts we magnetically attract like thoughts.

Imagine if you are constantly thinking negative thoughts about your job, such as  “I detest my job” guess what, the universe will bring in thoughts about your job which in turn will bring in more things to dislike about your job. Therefore if you don’t like you job, do something about it, nothing is going to change unless you put in the effort to do something about it and then take action. Use the law of attraction to make the changes you would like in life.

If you are a positive person and are sending out lots of positive thoughts you give the universe the opportunity to bring in more positive thoughts. Let’s say you love your job. You wake up in the morning excited to go to work, to see your colleagues, clients etc. not only do you have a positive mind set but you are also sending thoughts out that you are happy, excited etc. guess what the universe will  bring in more thoughts about liking your job and you will have more things to be happy and excited about.

It is important to understand that our thoughts become manifestations, our thoughts become our life! If we take the time to look back at the past we can see how we brought things to us, they were our thoughts. Maybe we spent a lot of time thinking about debt, and now we have a lot of debt, maybe we spent a lot of time thinking we were not worthy of the wonderful relationship we had with our partner and now that relationship is over.  Maybe we spent a lot of time thinking about our dream house and now we are living in that dream house.

One of the reasons that people do not have the things they want in their lives is because they spend more time thinking about the things they don’t want rather than the things they do want.  The universe doesn’t work with negatives like don’t, no and not. It just removes these words so it is very important to think about your thoughts. For example “I don’t want to miss the bus.” The universe hears I want to miss the bus, and your day just gets worse from here on in! Instead of I don’t want to miss the bus change it to a positive, I will arrive at the bus stop in plenty of time.

Of course it is impossible to monitor every single thought we have as we have so many in a day. Firstly concentrate on the things you would like to change! Think about the perfect job, the perfect body, abundance etc. and go from there.

The law of attraction is a three step process: ask, believe and receive. It is really that simple and there are some great tools that you can use to help you to manifest the life you desire. We are the creators of our  lives and our dreams and we have the power to manifest anything we wish.

Ask – send out the thoughts of the things you would like with feeling, feel what it would be like to have the things you want.

Believe – believe that you deserve them and believe that the universe will deliver them, you don’t need to worry about how they will be delivered, just believe that they will.

Receive – now you have done the hard work, be open to receiving what you have asked for, however it arrives.

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Tools to help you to use this three step process.

There are many tools available to help us with taking control of our lives and manifesting the life we deserve, here are a few that I have found very helpful.

Meditation – helps quieten the mind so you can focus on the things you truly desire

Positive thought – brings in more things to be positive about.

Affirmations – positive statements that affirm we have what we want.

Gratitude – the more we are grateful for the more the universe will bring us to be grateful for. For more information on gratitude please click here

Visualisation – see the things you want, visualise and imagine what they look like.

Feelings – feel excited about having the things you want, feel the feelings of having everything you want.

Vision Boarding – a collage of pictures you can see often to help you visualise what you want. For more information on vision board please click here

Intention – intend to have the things you desire.

Releasing blockages – we may have blockages that stop us from having the things we desire like being uncomfortable around money, or feeling that you don’t deserve money so releasing any blockages is necessary in order to receive.

Forgiveness – when we forgive we are letting go of past issues and living in the present. Please find more information on forgiveness here and forgiveness rituals here

Working with the moons phases – the moon is a very powerful energy and its phases have been used for hundreds of years. There is a phase for removing the things you want and one for bringing in the things you desire. Article here

Goal setting – setting goals helps us to have focus and to see the things we have achieved.

Cosmic ordering – allows us to have real focus on what we want and is a ritual to send out to the universe what we truly desire.

Speak your truth – when we speak from our hearts, we speak our truth and it is very liberating.

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Anchoring The Nlp Secret To Self Confidence

NLP anchoring is one of the most popular NLP techniques out there because of its power and immediate impact. With it you can choose to deliberately put yourself in any chosen state such as being happy, confident, cheerful, creative, calm etc in the blink of an eye. NLP anchoring also gives you the chance to create your own anchors and to create them in other people as well.
So how does anchoring work?
Someone has an intense emotional experience and at some point during that experience a specific stimulus is applied creating a neurological link between that stimulus and emotion. A negative example of this would be a woman whose husband has died. As those who attend his funeral pass they touch her on her arm while giving her their condolences. Weeks after the funeral the woman will
only have to be touched on the arm for those feelings of grief to come back to her.
The stimulus could be anything from a touch to a tone of voice (how dose it feel when that certain person tells you that they love you with that certain tone of voice?) to the tapping of a pencil on a table top. The important thing is that it is used at a certain point of the experience and that it is suitably unique when there is strong emotional stimulation so the two get associated with each other.
Let’s try an exercise in developing instant self confidence:
Think of a time when you were totally confident, you felt powerful and there was no doubt in your mind. As those feelings come back to you they will peak and subside. Start clenching your fist, pinch your left palm in a specific way, or any other anchor you wish to apply. Fire off the anchor a few more times as long as you are still in that peak state. . Repeat this a few times and then test it by using the anchor you set. If you’ve done it right you should feel a welling up of those same emotions.  This is how simple it is.  See what a difference anchoring can make to your life? Imagine firing off this confidence anchor whenever you are feeling a little unsure of yourself.
You can also do this to other people. The same principles apply.
The effectiveness of the anchor depends on the strength of the emotional experience, the uniqueness of the anchor and the number of times it is repeated.
This article covers the very basics of anchoring a good practitioner course will give you many powerful anchoring techniques and applications.
If you could anchor yourself to states of extreme confidence, power and motivation that you could then fire off at any time you wanted what would be different about your life? Imagine being able to do the same to the people around you. Would this increase your power as a business leader or manager? How about doing it to your children as a parent? The possibilities are endless.
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Increasing Prosperity With Positive Thinking

 

 

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Increasing prosperity in our lives can be accomplished by having the right frame of mind. The truth is, our thoughts are very powerful. They are capable of influencing every aspect of our daily lives, from our physical health to our social behaviors. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “As you think, so shall you be.”

If we want to improve our lives, we must first improve our thoughts. Harnessing the power of thought in a positive way has the ability to create great change in our lives, including our financial well-being and prosperity. But how? How do we take something as intangible as thoughts, and manifest them into a physical reality?

We must first understand that being prosperous is more than having a lot of money. Prosperity is a mindset, a way of interacting in our lives, and a way of thinking. Mastering this train of thought is not easy, but it is simple enough if we keep working on it consistently.

Following are some ideas to help you improve your thoughts, and ultimately attract more prosperity into your life:

Be grateful for the blessings in your life right now. Take a few minutes each day to express heartfelt gratitude for the good things in your life. Even more powerful, write a few of these blessings down each day. This helps to put your focus in the right direction — on abundance, not lack.

Use positive affirmations to begin training yourself to think positively. Use “I am” statements such as “I am worthy of all that is good.” Write the statements down and repeat them nightly before bed. Over time, this will implant these thoughts into your subconscious mind, and you will begin to naturally believe them.

Creative visualization can help you achieve prosperity by determining what it is you wish to achieve, and then thoroughly creating that image in your mind. This works in the same way affirmations do. Our subconscious will fill with images of prosperity, and eventually these subconscious “truths” will manifest in the physical. “See” yourself as being prosperous, and you will become so.

Encourage yourself with the belief that you can achieve great things. This could also be one of your affirmations, but expand on it. If you know you can earn a certain salary, tell yourself you can earn more. Allow yourself to believe all things are possible, and you will gain the confidence needed to reach higher than you ever imagined you could. If you believe you can do it, you are more likely to take the risks associated with people who are highly successful. Prosperity and success go hand in hand, so take risks and aim higher.

Start a savings account. As strange as it sounds, think about this: Like Attracts Like. Even if you can only afford to put a few dollars into your account every month, it will begin to build up and attract more money.

Finally, believe you are already wealthy. The creative ability of our thoughts is such that we lend more power and energy to whatever we consistently focus on. Focusing on lack will create more lack. Focusing on wealth and prosperity will create . . . guess what?

Remember that this is a process. You  won’t change your circumstances in one day. But over time, with consistent focus, your thoughts will begin to attract what you want. Once you master this power of thought, there are truly no limits to what you can create!

5 Tips On How To Build Self Confidence Today

5 simple tips to help you feel better about yourself and build you self confidence today. Learn how to smile and others will smile with you.

There are very few people who could call themselves perfect and be right. Most of us need to build our self confidence, but the majority of us either ignore the issues or concentrate on the negatives: stress, worry, jobs, money problems and relationship issues. Concentrating on these areas drains our self confidence rather than improving it.

If you could improve your self confidence you could make more money, look and feel better physically, or just be more relaxed with other people. Below there are five simple techniques that have been proven to help build self confidence today.

1. Talk to yourself. It sounds crazy but it works. All of us have a running monologue constantly in our heads, whether we realize it or not. Everything we see, hear, or touch sparks off an immediate dialog in our thoughts.

For those who lack confidence this monologue is filled with negative messages, many of which are the negative side of adverts from television, radio, newspapers, and just overhearing other people talk.

These negative thoughts literally suck energy from our minds and bodies and block the flow of positive messages. We need to hear the positive messages as they will build self confidence and raise our self esteem. Take control. Use your inner thoughts to talk to yourself in a positive manner, as often as you can.

As an example one of my regular sayings is “I like myself, I like myself, I like myself”. I just repeat it for a couple of minutes. It sounds cheesy, but does build self confidence  – Try it. I bet that if you go to the mirror right now and repeat out loud “I like myself!” 50 times, it will be impossible to not smile.

2. Dress as smartly and as classy as you can. You wont feel at your best if you don’t look your best. You will be amazed at just how much more confidence you will have just looking your best. It feels good when you are wearing your best clothes, are well groomed, and are surrounded by a clean environment. So what if it is Saturday, you need to build self confidence today not next week. Put on your nice clothes, get the car washed, style that hair! A hairdresser once told me “Everyday is show time!”

3. Increase your self esteem even more by giving thanks to what you are, how you look, and what you are doing. Say “thank you” to yourself, to everything you see, everyone you meet, and each smile that you receive.

4. Stand or sit correctly: How you stand sends out a message to the World, and in turn, back to you. This results in improving how you feel about yourself and will build self confidence today and every day.

There is scientific evidence that shows how posture affects our mood. Do not slouch. Slouching produces a down mood. By slouching you are telling the world and yourself it doesn’t matter, you don’t matter. Standing tall and upright will actually lift your mood. Help build up your confidence by pulling back those shoulders, stop that slouch, and walk proud.

5. Smile. Just smile and things seem better somehow. Practice smiling regularly and get your facial muscles used to the physical act of smiling.

Go to the mirror and smile – make yourself. Not a grimace, but a proper smile. If you don’t think you can try this:

1)Open your eyes as wide as you can – (try and get your eyebrows right up to you hair line)
2)Slightly open your mouth
3)Pull the corners of your mouth back towards your ears (If your not sure pull them back with your fingers so you know what it feels like then try again without your fingers).
4)Repeat 50 times. Get your facial muscles used to smiling and you will smile more and encourage smiles from others. This will make you feel happier and with that you’ll build self confidence today.

 

Get Rid of Procrastination, Now!

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Do you put off your work for later, only to find your deadlines steadily creeping in? Then you, are one of the millions of people afflicted by the procrastination virus. Procrastination is the biggest reason for loss of productivity and late output. Though many would not admit it, they would benefit greatly if they start their work on time.

For many people, putting off their work for later is more habit than desire. It can be so hard to get into a groove where starting your tasks in a timely fashion is a priority, especially if the consequences for being late are things that one can probably bear.

If you are one of these people, yet you desire to shake off your propensity for procrastination, then you have come to the right place. Here are a few tips to help you overcome this dilemma and become a more productive and reliable person.

  1. Set schedules – It is very important that you have a list of activities to accomplish per day. This will help you realistically budget your time and resources. One of the cardinal sins people commit in regards to performing their tasks is to put off their work because they feel like there is so much time left. A journal, organizer, or calendar of events will help you plan and schedule your task so that you can start them promptly and finish them on time.
  1. Save the Vacation for Later – Many people put their work off for later saying, “I’ll just have a little fun then buckle down to work later.” While it may be true that they may have more than enough time to accomplish their tasks, it would be better if they finished their work first and relax afterwards.

Wouldn’t relaxation be sweeter if it were after a taxing job? If you choose to lay back and relax before doing your tasks, you will be more prone to burnout and will have nothing exciting left to look forward to after accomplishing a task. It is always better to have a slack period AFTER a job than before one.

  1. Never Underestimate Your Tasks – Sometimes procrastination sets in because people underestimate the resources, difficulty, and time spent for a particular task. They will usually say, “It’s just mowing the lawn, its easy; I could do it in a jiffy.” The problem is, no matter how trivial the task, it still takes time and resources to accomplish. If you underestimate a task, you will most likely set too little time to do it and schedule it too close to its deadline.
  1. Don’t Allow Yourself to Get Comfortable Doing Nothing – It would definitely help if you kept a subconscious alarm whenever you are doing nothing. Get this alarm to remind you of things that may need to be done. This will help you foster the notion that jobs accomplished now means more time for relaxation later. However, even if this is the case, do not forget to put ample time in for rest and to remove all thoughts of troubles before hitting the sack. The trick here, however, is not to overdo your rest. There is a difference between resting and idling. Always set the right amount of time for rest and stick to that schedule.

 

How your beliefs create your world

 

beliefs wordle            Believe it or not, the world is first created by beliefs. That skyscraper…like everything else you can see with your eyes, hear with your ears, and touch with your fingers, that skyscraper started as a belief. Someone believed it was possible. Believed that they, that human beings, have the capacity and the authority to create such a structure. You can be sure that without the fundamental beliefs that made the construction possible, it wouldn’t have happened. How could anyone build a skyscraper that no one believed was possible? The same goes for the roads, for the schools, the grocery stores, the TV, the mobile phone, and even your friends and family.

While the people in your life may not be created by a belief, the way they think and speak is dependent on what they believe. And the same goes for you…that’s just how the human mind works.

Every time a baby is born, the world is again blessed with a pure manifestation of consciousness. Babies are pristine, pure, innocent, and if you’ve ever had the pleasure of seeing her smile and hearing him giggle, then you know this to be true. You may feel that innocence calling from the misty halls of your memory.

The creation of belief systems begins even before birth. The intimate connection with the mother not only allows the fetus to hear what’s going on, it can actually feel what’s going on. If the mother is happy and safe, her biochemistry is going to have a certain chemical make-up and the baby will experience the same thing. If the mother is fearful and angry, her biochemistry is going to be different and the baby will experience that fear and anger. Now, what does that have to do with beliefs?

Already at this very early moment, the child is learning, through this biochemical communication, what the world is like. Very simply, the child begins her education about the safety or danger of the world at this stage. I don’t mean to say that this is THE defining moment in his definition of the world, but it is the first formations. After birth, this wide-open consciousness begins to absorb everything around it. Everything. Every. Thing. Without discretion. If the baby can sense it, she’s going to accept it. She’s going to use that sensory information to construct her belief system. If there’s a loud, unexpected honk as the child is handed a stuffed teddy bear, she might learn that stuffed teddy bears are scary.

As the baby grows into a child, as their belief system solidifies, he begins to filter the information that he receives. A 2 year old filters more than a newborn and a lot less than a 12 year-old, by which time the belief system is usually fully formed, and aside from the occasional rite-of-passage as the person matures or the rare seeker-of-knowledge, this belief system will stay intact until death.

Throughout most of our lives, we retain the belief system that we inherited from the world around us, regardless of whether it’s helpful or harmful. But there are some, the few who realise that the only way they can really change their lives is to change their beliefs.

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Want to feel Motivated?

Want To Feel Motivated? Do These 5 Simple Things

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Despite your many efforts to succeed in life there are those times that your motivation seems to fall off a cliff. These situations are quite normal and luckily there are easy ways  to get around them. Check out these really easy steps to get yourself fire up:

Check Your Health

Workout, eat a healthy diet, and keep your body physically fit. The very first thing that you should not overlook is your body. One good confidence booster is by having good health. Nothing beats a nice looking healthy body that you and others seeing you would like. Getting in shape would definitely give you a head start.

Find Out What Easily Bothers You

There are certain things that bother us most of the time. These are those little things that make us experience that unbearable itch that really annoys us. Find out what it is and take time to realize the situation and come up with a plan to keep it from coming back.

Rid Yourself of Fear

Although a little fear could be used as a weapon for your own sake, however, if in large amounts it can be really harmful for you. Anxiety and fear are all psychological. They only exist in your mind. If you could create fear then you could erase fear as well. The same goes for anxiety. If your too afraid of the consequences or too anxious of what’s about to happen, you’re not motivated at all. Breaking down your fear into small manageable portions helps a lot in gaining motivation.

Start The Day With Positivity

Have you ever woken up on the wrong side of the bed? Most of us have and it lasted throughout the day. If negativity could last from the moment you wake up till you lay to rest at night, so can positivity. Kick start your day with a nice warm smile and a positive attitude. The right mindset at the right time can be a game changer.

Create Your Own Mantra

Meditating is an all effective, cost efficient method of motivating yourself. It’s long been referred to as a means of finding inner peace. Meditation can help you clear up your mind, rid you of all the anxiety, frustrations, and everything negative. There’s no exact means of meditating so you can come up with your own. As long as you’re comfortable and you could find calmness, that will do fine. It’s a lot easier to feel motivated when you’re mind isn’t clouded with negativity.

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