Why it is important to let go of the past

It is so easy to allow unresolved past issues, hurt, pain and regrets to impact heavily on the present moment. Wishing we had done things differently, resenting relationships, people and events that have occurred in our lives can lead to wallowing in resentment and pain and keep us stuck in the past.

If only there was a way to turn back the clock and do things differently.

If we knew then what we know now, everything would work out perfectly.

We could have avoided the trauma, spared ourselves the tears and walked away pain-free to carry on and live a perfectly happy life.

Or so we tell ourselves.

Learning to live fully present can be one of the most difficult but fulfilling things to master. However, until we do this, all kinds of past issues will keep coming up and cloud our minds.

One of the main reasons we struggle to live in the present moment is that we carry huge amounts of baggage around from past experiences. Once we have been hurt, or something significant has happened, the emotion etches in our minds as a warning to prevent it from happening again in future experiences.

We can find ourselves going over, and over again, certain situations to find some way to make sense of everything, why it happened to us, what did we do to deserve it etc.

All we are really doing though, is overwhelming our minds with constant negativity and so it will be very difficult, if not impossible, to see things with clarity and put them in perspective.

One of the ways we can combat this is to focus on exactly what is going on in our lives right now,this moment.

Every day we remain trapped in the past, countless amazing opportunities pass us by. It’s important to clear everything that we no longer need, whether that is:

  • People
  • Emotions
  • Thoughts
  • Jobs
  • Situations
  • Relationships
  • Events

This will not only clear space in your life it will help to free you up emotionally and energetically allowing you to create change and manifest the things in life you desire.

We all go through hurt, anger, pain and destruction and it is there for a reason. It there to help us learn and grow. Each person that you meet, each situation in your life and each event is there to teach us something.

It is by looking at each of these things in turn, acknowledging them and the lesson they have brought us, forgiving them and letting them go that we can move forwards from our pasts. The past is the past for a reason. It is people, events or situations that no longer serve us, it is time to let them go so that we can make room in our lives for new people, opportunities, possibilities and events.

Trust me I have been through my own share of hurt, pain, disastrous relationships and more. I have use all the tools I use in my coaching session to get me where I am today. You can read My Story here.

Are you ready to leave the past behind you and create change?

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Daily Success Habits

2840017Our daily habits can either help us or hurt our success in life. Bad habit can fester and grow into a lifestyle that takes you away from the things you want to do, where as a good habit can help you create a life that’s full of action, accomplishment and success.

Look at someone who is successful, maybe someone who inspires you, you will see that they spend each day doing the things that help them accomplish their goals and create success in their lives. They all have daily rituals that they complete every single day, that help them to stay motivated, focused and on track. This isn’t to say that they are all perfect, but they all have rituals or daily success habits that have a positive impact on their lives.

It is not enough to just read about daily habits, it’s meaningless if you don’t implement that knowledge, you have to take action and create your own habits/rituals that will help you to create success in your own live.

So here are four daily habits of highly successful people that will help to inspire you to create your own daily success habits.

1.  Plan out your day the night before.

When we don’t have a plan to follow it is very easy to not accomplish anything during our day.  We wake up not knowing what we want to do or accomplish each day. Successful people spend a little time the night before giving themselves clear goals for the next day. Then they wake up and go down their list, get focused and take action.

Life doesn’t always work out as planned, but with a plan, you can adjust without losing momentum.

2.  Read books to get inspiration.

Forming a daily reading habit will expand your knowledge and help you on your journey to success. Read as many inspirational books as you can. Set a goal of how many books you will read this year.

3.  Make your health a priority.

What you eat and how much you exercise affects every area of your life. Successful people use their exercise as a time to reset and plan.  Make good food choices that will give you the energy you need to accomplish everything on your daily to-do list.

4. Don’t get distracted by what others are doing.

Get clear on your WHY! Follow people that inspire you, you can learn so much from them— their mistakes, their victories, what to do, what not to do. But if you start comparing your progress to theirs, instead of using their stories as inspiration, you can feel jealous, stressed, unworthy.

Successful people know their journey is unique. So don’t get stuck in the comparison stay focused on your why.

5. What supportive daily habits -SPECIFIC DAILY ACTIONS- could you introduce right now?

What five actions would best support your success, including your HOME, PERSONAL and WORK-LIFE.

You know yourself. Where do you sabotage yourself regularly? What ideas do you already have?

Examples:

  • -Have 15 mins of alone time each day – Take 10 mins mid-afternoon to recap where I am at
  • -Drink 8 glasses of water a day
  • – Make all my calls in the first hour of the day
  • -Be at my desk by 8am
  • – Write out top 3 priorities for the day, everyday
  • -Eat a healthy breakfast every morning
  • – Eat lunch away from my desk
  • -Be in bed by 10.30pm

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18 simple tips to help you feel better about yourself and build you self confidence today.

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Learn how to smile and others will smile with you.

There are very few people who could call themselves perfect and be right. Most of us need to build our self confidence, but the majority of us either ignore the issues or concentrate on the negatives: stress, worry, jobs, money problems and relationship issues. Concentrating on these areas drains our self confidence rather than improving it.

If you could improve your self confidence you could make more money, look and feel better physically, or just be more relaxed with other people. Below there are five simple techniques that have been proven to help build self confidence today.

1.Talk to yourself. It sounds crazy but it works. All of us have a running monologue constantly in our heads, whether we realise it or not. Everything we see, hear, or touch sparks off an immediate dialog in our thoughts.

For those who lack confidence this monologue is filled with negative messages, many of which are the negative side of adverts from television, radio, newspapers, and just overhearing other people talk.

These negative thoughts literally suck energy from our minds and bodies and block the flow of positive messages. We need to hear the positive messages as they will build self confidence and raise our self esteem. Take control. Use your inner thoughts to talk to yourself in a positive manner, as often as you can.

As an example one of my regular sayings is “I like myself, I like myself, I like myself”. I just repeat it for a couple of minutes. It sounds cheesy, but does build self confidence – Try it. I bet that if you go to the mirror right now and repeat out loud “I like myself!” 50 times, it will be impossible to not smile.

2.Dress smartly and as classy as you can. You wont feel at your best if you don’t look your best. You will be amazed at just how much more confidence you will have just looking your best. It feels good when you are wearing your best clothes, are well groomed, and are surrounded by a clean environment. So what if it is Saturday, you need to build self confidence today not next week. Put on your nice clothes, get the car washed, style that hair! A hairdresser once told me “Everyday is show time!”

3.Give Thanks. Increase your self esteem even more by giving thanks to what you are, how you look, and what you are doing. Say “thank you” to yourself, to everything you see, everyone you meet, and each smile that you receive.

4.Stand or sit correctly: How you stand sends out a message to the World, and in turn, back to you. This results in improving how you feel about yourself and will build self confidence today and every day.

There is scientific evidence that shows how posture affects our mood. Do not slouch. Slouching produces a down mood. By slouching you are telling the world and yourself it doesn’t matter, you don’t matter. Standing tall and upright will actually lift your mood. Help build up your confidence by pulling back those shoulders, stop that slouch, and walk proud.

5.Smile. Just smile and things seem better somehow. Practice smiling regularly and get your facial muscles used to the physical act of smiling.

Go to the mirror and smile – make yourself. Not a grimace, but a proper smile. If you don’t think you can try this:

1)Open your eyes as wide as you can – (try and get your eyebrows right up to you hair line)
2)Slightly open your mouth
3)Pull the corners of your mouth back towards your ears (If your not sure pull them back with your fingers so you know what it feels like then try again without your fingers).
4)Repeat 50 times. Get your facial muscles used to smiling and you will smile more and encourage smiles from others. This will make you feel happier and with that you’ll build self confidence today.

6. Think positive. keep your thought positive. Your thoughts and feelings create your reality (Law of Attraction) It is impossible to monitor every though but when you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts think about something positive, a positive event or person and how you felt at that time.

7. Act positive. More than just thinking positively, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Acting in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can’t, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You’ll soon start to notice a difference.

8. Get to know yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. You can’t defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you’re trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analysing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you’ll come out (eventually) with even greater self-confidence.
9. Know your principles and live them. What are the principles upon which your life is built? If you don’t know, you will have trouble, because your life will feel directionless. Think about your principles … you might have them but perhaps you haven’t given them much thought. Now think about whether you actually live these principles, or if you just believe in them but don’t act on them.
 
10. Increase competence. How do you feel more competent? By becoming more competent. And how do you do that? By studying and practicing. Just do small bits at a time. If you want to be a more competent writer, for example, don’t try to tackle the entire profession of writing all at once. Just begin to write more. Journal, blog, write short stories, do some freelance writing. The more you write, the better you’ll be. Set aside 30 minutes a day to write, and the practice will increase your competence.
 
11. Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail because they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal youknow you can achieve, and then achieve it. You’ll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you’ll be at it, and the better you’ll feel. Soon you’ll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.

12. Change a small habit. Not a big one, like quitting smoking. Just a small one, like writing things down. Or waking up 10 minutes earlier. Or drinking a glass of water when you wake up. Something small that you know you can do. Do it for a month. When you’ve accomplished it, you’ll feel like a million dollars. (check out the daily success habits in this course).

13. Be grateful. I’m a firm believer in gratitude. I put it here because while being grateful for what you have in life, for what others have given you, is a very humbling activity … it can also be a very positive and rewarding activity that will improve your self-image. Also, the more gratitude you send out the more the universe will send you to be grateful for. There is a whole section on gratitude later in the course.

14. Who inspires you. We often have role models or people we admire. It could be their image, their energy, their people skills, leadership skills, the way they make life seem so easy and uncomplicated or something else. Whatever Inspires you, think about who you would like to be by considering what it is in others that you admire and aspire to. If you can see it in others, you already have that quality in you.

15. Write an achievement list. If you look back at your life, what have you already achieved? Go back to school time writing down the exams you passed, the jobs you had, the friendships you made, experiences you had and so on. You will be surprised at how much you have already achieved, and sometimes it is not until we write it down that we can actually see how successful we have already been.

16.Spend time with people who make you feel good. You are already fabulous, it doesn’t hurt to keep being reminded!

Find people that inspire you, find out what they are doing to create successful lives, follow them on Facebook or twitter, read their blogs, books etc. Spend time with happy, successful people. People that make you feel good, encourage you to be the best you can be. Learn from them. These people will naturally boost your confidence. ( as discussed in finding your support team).

17. Boost your strengths. Do more of the things you are good at. Find ways to use and grow your strengths. It is your opportunity for the greatest growth and success in your life.

18. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique, with your own skills, values, beliefs and circumstances. You may think everyone is better than you are, but you are only seeing the image they portray to others. Everyone has their own fears and weaknesses — after all, we’re all human. Be happy being you.

 

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My Story!

The years have gone by so fast and its not until I look back over everything that has happened that I realise I have been through a lot and achieved a lot too.

I got married at 21 and had my first child at 21, things were pretty good, six years later, after fertility treatment, I had my second child. Shortly after she was born I left my Husband because his behaviour was unreasonable and he did nothing but watch sport on the tv and shout at the kids.

I spent a few months on my own with the kids and it wasn’t long before I met someone new. Things moved along really quickly and it wasn’t long before he moved in. Things were going really well and he was great with the kids. After about 2 years he started to change and things became quiet difficult at times. He was a compulsive lier! Over the course of a 10 year relationship he left or had affairs numerous times but each time it didn’t work out he would come back, I would allow him to come back! He would start to call me constantly, then he would start with the suicide threats until I gave in. Each time he would promise to get help and sort himself out. The lies were incredible and his moods would change instantly. He put me in hospital once after he decided to beat me up. He told everyone that his dad sexually assaulted him on a train when he was a child and all sorts of other nonsense because he was an attention seeker and he basically didn’t know the difference between truth and lies.

When things were good, they were really good but when things were bad, they were really bad. During this time I had my third child, which was a real shock as I would told I would never have any more children unless I underwent more fertility treatment!

At the time we had a cake business that was doing really well. He was a smooth talker and a charmer so getting clients was easy for him. One day I receive a complaint that a birthday cake hadn’t arrived so I obviously questioned him about it, of course I got nothing but lies from him. He would go and see the clients and take the deposits, but he wasn’t putting it all through the books so the orders couldn’t be put through the books either. He started going out a lot and would disappear over night. One night he told me that he had been locked up for being drunk and disorderly, yet another lie. A couple of days later I got a call from a bride who was incredibly upset that her wedding cake hadn’t arrived!! There were no records of this order of course. This was my final tipping point, I had people arriving at my house because they hadn’t received orders and he wasn’t answering his phone. I called the police and reported what had happened, packed his stuff, left it outside and told him to collect it.

It was at this point I decided enough was enough and it was only me that could change all this. He was never going to have a hold over me again and neither was anyone else. Luckily for me neither of the kids dad’s were really interested in them so I never had to share them, they were just mine. Of course this meant they didn’t pay child maintenance or have them at all but I was very ok with this. It was them that kept me going.

I Decided to have my very first Tarot reading. He always joked “what do you think you are psychic” because I would know exactly when I would received the suicide threats. So I thought I would give it a go. I called a lovely lady called Trish who came to see me a few days later. I had a great reading with her and she really set me off on a new path. She confirmed that yes I was Psychic and I should be working as a healer. She initiated me into Reiki 1 and 2. I joined a spiritual group where I learned how to read Tarot and Angel cards, meditate and connect with my guides. I took a course in crystal healing and finished my Reiki master/teacher degree. I met some lovely people along my journey and I also met some not so lovely people. I had a really good clearing of all the things that didn’t serve me including friends and sadly one of my teachers as she had a very strange way of treating pupils that were doing really well for themselves. I got a job on Psychic Today and things were looking really good.

Within a few weeks of ending the relationship my youngest daughter had a horrific accident. My eldest daughter for some unknown reason lit a tea light candle and put it on the coffee table. My youngest daughter sat on the table not realising there was a candle on it and it set her dress alight, it was a dressing up dress which was highly flamable. I was downstairs at this time, we lived in a town house. My eldest daughter dragged her down the stairs with her dress alight and one of my friends dropped and rolled her and got her in a cold shower whilst we called the ambulance. She was taken to our local hospital and then rushed to a burns unit just over an hour away. The burns on her back were severe, her arms, bottom and hair were not as bad. She was in the hospital for 10 days and sent home. After a day at home she was rushed back in to under go surgery as she wasn’t healing and she had become infected. She had to have skin graphs on her back and was in hospital for another 5 days. My friends were great helping out with my other daughter, my son was pretty self sufficient at this time. Whist I was at the hospital I had a call from my friend telling me that my other daughter was really unwell. I left my youngest daughter for a few hours to check on my other daughter. I told her I would be back in a few hours. My other daughter was complaining of belly ache and rolling around on the floor. She was a proper drama queen, so I told her I was going to spend some time with her, she really didn’t need to roll around the floor. I though she was just a bit jealous as I hadn’t seen her much over the last 10 days. She carried on so I called the doctor, as I did she was very sick and it was green! They made an emergency appointment for me to take her straight in. The doctor checked her over and sent her straight to the Hospital with suspected appendicitis! The hospital took one look at her and she was in theatre within 15 minutes of arriving. When they came out to tell me how she was doing they informed me it was about to burst! She had only been unwell for a few hours, I was really shocked, I had no idea it could happen so fast. I now had to choose which daughter to spend the night with, in which hospital and in which county!

My eldest was released the following afternoon and went straight to my mums so that I could go back to the other hospital and be with my youngest. My youngest recovered well, the skin graphs took and I did lots of Reiki and massage with her. The doctors were impressed at the speed she was recovering. We had to go to the hospital 3 times a week to change dressings, eventually it went down to two, then one and after a year we didn’t have to go back. The trips were taking up most of my time as it was 90 minutes each way and would just get back in time to get my other two from school.

I continued my study and focused on just me and kids. I put everything I learned into practice. I used gratitude and forgiveness on a daily basis to help me to leave the past behind me and focus on my present moment. I was learning so much and I wanted to share all of this with my clients so I took a life coaching course and many other courses so that I could build programs and session to help my friends and my clients.

After four years of my friends nagging me to get out and meet people (I do like my own company and am perfectly happy on my own) I gave in and let one of my friends build me a profile on an internet dating site. It was fun for about an hour but it really didn’t sit right with me so I asked her to take it down. I would find another way to meet someone. I had read the book the secret and studied the law of attraction and cosmic ordering, so I thought it would be a great idea to cosmically order my perfect partner. So I did and 3 weeks later he arrived!! He has two children so my family has grown from 4 to 7, it can be very hectic when we are all together. I will tell you more about this in another article.

We went on holiday to Rome, it was fantastic, we loved it. We talked a lot when we got back about how lovely it would be to move to Italy, but we had no idea how we could make this happen. A year later we took my daughters to Rome and at that point we decided we were moving to Italy! We had no idea where in Italy we were moving to but we were moving. 8 months later we moved here! I will share with you exactly how we manifested this in another article.

I now have my dream home, my perfect partner and everything else I want, but that doesn’t mean life is always easy! Since we moved here back in July mother nature has certainly had something to say about it. Within 4 weeks of being here we experienced our first earthquake, and have had many, many more since. They hadn’t had an earthquake in this part of Italy for nearly 20 years! Then we experienced the Sirocco winds that tore though our land and finally this month more snow than ever. So to say thing have been exciting here is an understatement!

Life hasn’t always been easy and I have been through my fair share of difficult times but that isn’t going to stop me getting what I want and helping other make major changes in their lives too. My mum will tell you I am one of the unluckiest people ever because nothing ever goes right or doesn’t happen easily, the way I planned or without problems. But I still make it happen!

If you would like to know more about my programs and packages to help you leave the past behind you and create a life you are excited about then please visit my website.

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The Benefits of Taking Stock of Your Life

Taking stock is about finding personal happiness and discovering your life purpose.

tcloudMake some time where you can really think about where you are and whats happening around you at the moment. You need to sometimes give yourself time to step back and evaluate things, otherwise the day to day stuff will overwhelm.

You are the owner of your life – so take an overview every so often – make sure you are planning and heading where you want to go – not just living the day to day just keeping your head above water.

 

 

Consider these things:

  • What are you PUTTING UP WITH at the moment?
  • What do you think you should be doing right now, professionally and personally?
  • What things are frustrating you about yourself, your life, Health, Work, Others?
  • What do you REALLY, REALLY WANT right now in your personal and/or professional life?
  • How do your currently feel? How do you want to feel?

 

Also look at things around you like your home, work, office, health etc and make a list for each area of things that need to be done.

For example look at your home, go around each and every part of your house noting down anything that you can see that needs sorting out. Here are some examples:

  • DIY that needs doing
  • Cleaning jobs that have not been done for a while
  • Mending things
  • Sorting and clearing out rooms/cupboards etc…
  • Charity run / Tip run
  • Filing pile building up

Its probable that these things are playing on your mind, causing frustration, upset etc.

Take time to sit down and give some thought to whats fallen by the wayside in your life:-

  • Getting social dates in the diary with friends and family
  • Booking things that you want to do in the coming months
  • Revamping your weekly schedule
  • Giving time for fitness
  • Starting a new hobby or gaining a qualification

This can become a very long list (especially if you are really thorough and consider every little thing) – but the key is to see exactly what needs doing, and then you can more easily do something about it.

Think of it as a complete overhaul of your Master to do list – which can be forgotten sometimes when life gets in the way. It can become outdated quickly at times.

The benefits of taking action

I know this is asking you to take time out of what is usually a hectic and busy schedule – but the argument for taking stock every so often far outweighs the argument for not doing so.

If you can take stock of your life – there are so many benefits:-

  • You gain a better perspective on whats niggling you constantly
  • You can start to add these items as “TO DOs” into your diary – one a day would be a great place to star
  • You can see what you can delegate to others to get through things more quickly
  • You have a better understanding of where you are, and where you want/need to be
  • You gain more head space as you aren’t constantly thinking about things that need to be done

Taking Action

Now you have a long list of things to do prioritise them. What are the most important tasks? which ones aren’t so urgent and which ones can be left.

All these things can so easily swamp your mind if they aren’t dealt with– so take some time out get on top of things once and for all.

Dream journaling

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We all dream every night but many of us only remember little snippets of our dreams. During our sleep time our conscious mind or ego is switched off, making it easier for guidance to come through.

Keeping a dream journal is an excellent way to record and remember your dreams and the guidance you are receiving. Keep your journal by your bedside so that you can write in it as soon as you wake; as this will give you the most chance of remembering bits from your dreams. Don’t worry if it doesn’t make sense now, it will do at a later date, when you have more information. Any information no matter how irrelevant it may seem is worth writing down!

How to keep a Dream journal

Date your dream and then write down everything that you can remember. Write everything in the present tense.

Identify dream themes. Think about the location, characters, sensations, sounds, objects and emotions of the dream and how the dream made you feel.

You may then want to analyse the themes and fully interpret your dream. Otherwise, continue to write down all the memorable details in your dream journal.

Don’t worry about spelling, punctuation and grammar. As long as you can read it back later and it makes sense to you then it is fine.

Sketch any strong images from the dream. It doesn’t matter if you’re not an artist. A sketch is just to help you visualise the dream later on.

When you have finished, jot down any major events that are going on in your life at the moment so that you can link your dreams to reality.

Give the dream a title as this will make it easier for you to look back on.

Personalise your journal, add pictures, drawings etc. make it special to you.

Every now and then have a look through what you have written in your journal and see if there is a pattern emerging or if some of the dreams are now making sense. As we know our angels provide messages and guidance whilst we are in a dream state as then our ego can’t interfere whilst we are sleeping. This guidance is important; as we dream the same or similar dreams when getting guidance and they will keep happening until we understand the message we are being given. 

We can also ask our angels, guides and loved ones to visit us in our dreams and give us answers and guidance. You can try saying the following just before you fall asleep or you can write it in your journal so that you have a record of the questions you have asked. You can address your question to angels, your guardian angel, guides or loved ones i.e. Archangel Michael or your Nan.

“Dear angels, whilst I am sleeping tonight please could you give me messages or guidance about my work situation, thank you.”

“Dear angels, please can you help me remember my dreams in the morning when I wake. Thank you.”

This is a lovely record to keep, so get a pretty notebook or decorate one yourself.

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The Law of Attraction

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The law of attraction is the universal law that says “ like attracts like”, and that by using this process we can bring into our lives the things that we want. Every thought we have goes out into the universe and the universe brings us back what we have thought about, whether that thought is negative or positive. The universe cannot distinguish between the things we want and the things we don’t, it just reacts to the thought patterns we have.

Einstein proved that everything in the universe is made of energy and this energy vibrates on different frequencies. The law of attraction is one of the most powerful universal laws this law states that whatever we send out to the universe we get back, like attracts like. So if we are sending out negative thoughts and emotions we will get back more negative thoughts and emotions. If we send out positive thoughts and emotions we will get back positive thoughts and emotions. Our thoughts have a frequency and are magnetic, as we think our thoughts we magnetically attract like thoughts.

Imagine if you are constantly thinking negative thoughts about your job, such as  “I detest my job” guess what, the universe will bring in thoughts about your job which in turn will bring in more things to dislike about your job. Therefore if you don’t like you job, do something about it, nothing is going to change unless you put in the effort to do something about it and then take action. Use the law of attraction to make the changes you would like in life.

If you are a positive person and are sending out lots of positive thoughts you give the universe the opportunity to bring in more positive thoughts. Let’s say you love your job. You wake up in the morning excited to go to work, to see your colleagues, clients etc. not only do you have a positive mind set but you are also sending thoughts out that you are happy, excited etc. guess what the universe will  bring in more thoughts about liking your job and you will have more things to be happy and excited about.

It is important to understand that our thoughts become manifestations, our thoughts become our life! If we take the time to look back at the past we can see how we brought things to us, they were our thoughts. Maybe we spent a lot of time thinking about debt, and now we have a lot of debt, maybe we spent a lot of time thinking we were not worthy of the wonderful relationship we had with our partner and now that relationship is over.  Maybe we spent a lot of time thinking about our dream house and now we are living in that dream house.

One of the reasons that people do not have the things they want in their lives is because they spend more time thinking about the things they don’t want rather than the things they do want.  The universe doesn’t work with negatives like don’t, no and not. It just removes these words so it is very important to think about your thoughts. For example “I don’t want to miss the bus.” The universe hears I want to miss the bus, and your day just gets worse from here on in! Instead of I don’t want to miss the bus change it to a positive, I will arrive at the bus stop in plenty of time.

Of course it is impossible to monitor every single thought we have as we have so many in a day. Firstly concentrate on the things you would like to change! Think about the perfect job, the perfect body, abundance etc. and go from there.

The law of attraction is a three step process: ask, believe and receive. It is really that simple and there are some great tools that you can use to help you to manifest the life you desire. We are the creators of our  lives and our dreams and we have the power to manifest anything we wish.

Ask – send out the thoughts of the things you would like with feeling, feel what it would be like to have the things you want.

Believe – believe that you deserve them and believe that the universe will deliver them, you don’t need to worry about how they will be delivered, just believe that they will.

Receive – now you have done the hard work, be open to receiving what you have asked for, however it arrives.

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Tools to help you to use this three step process.

There are many tools available to help us with taking control of our lives and manifesting the life we deserve, here are a few that I have found very helpful.

Meditation – helps quieten the mind so you can focus on the things you truly desire

Positive thought – brings in more things to be positive about.

Affirmations – positive statements that affirm we have what we want.

Gratitude – the more we are grateful for the more the universe will bring us to be grateful for. For more information on gratitude please click here

Visualisation – see the things you want, visualise and imagine what they look like.

Feelings – feel excited about having the things you want, feel the feelings of having everything you want.

Vision Boarding – a collage of pictures you can see often to help you visualise what you want. For more information on vision board please click here

Intention – intend to have the things you desire.

Releasing blockages – we may have blockages that stop us from having the things we desire like being uncomfortable around money, or feeling that you don’t deserve money so releasing any blockages is necessary in order to receive.

Forgiveness – when we forgive we are letting go of past issues and living in the present. Please find more information on forgiveness here and forgiveness rituals here

Working with the moons phases – the moon is a very powerful energy and its phases have been used for hundreds of years. There is a phase for removing the things you want and one for bringing in the things you desire. Article here

Goal setting – setting goals helps us to have focus and to see the things we have achieved.

Cosmic ordering – allows us to have real focus on what we want and is a ritual to send out to the universe what we truly desire.

Speak your truth – when we speak from our hearts, we speak our truth and it is very liberating.

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