Italy, Us and the Earthquake!

90923360_quakemap-14 weeks ago my family and I moved to Montappone, Marche, Central Italy to our dream home, well I say dream home, we have a lot of work to do!
Yesterday in the early hours of the morning my Daughter and I were woken up to the house shaking, plaster and rubble falling from the ceiling and the most awful noise. We were completely alone, our nearest neighbour is about a 5 min drive away and my partner was in the UK.
We ran outside, in complete shock, was that an earthquake?? What on earth do we do now! We just sat in the garden not knowing what to do, I decided it would be a good idea to move the car in case we needed to stay in it, it was under a massive walnut tree.
Then the aftershocks started to hit, they were no where near as bad but the fear they were going to be big ones was terrifying us.
As daylight broke we decided to go into my daughter’s room as it is in the one story part of the house to try to get some sleep, but the odd aftershocks were still coming. The last aftershock we felt was at 5.17am this morning, 15 hours after the initial earthquake.
Aftershocks are still happening at this time across central Italy. A complete town has been wiped out. Two other towns have been virtually demolished.  The casualties so far are 250 dead and over 300 injured, many people are still missing. The death toll is still rising. Hundreds of people have lost their homes, friends and families.
I will be donating 20% of all my readings/coaching to the relief effort in Italy, to help provide shelter and food to the survivors of this awful earthquake.

Anchoring The Nlp Secret To Self Confidence

NLP anchoring is one of the most popular NLP techniques out there because of its power and immediate impact. With it you can choose to deliberately put yourself in any chosen state such as being happy, confident, cheerful, creative, calm etc in the blink of an eye. NLP anchoring also gives you the chance to create your own anchors and to create them in other people as well.
So how does anchoring work?
Someone has an intense emotional experience and at some point during that experience a specific stimulus is applied creating a neurological link between that stimulus and emotion. A negative example of this would be a woman whose husband has died. As those who attend his funeral pass they touch her on her arm while giving her their condolences. Weeks after the funeral the woman will
only have to be touched on the arm for those feelings of grief to come back to her.
The stimulus could be anything from a touch to a tone of voice (how dose it feel when that certain person tells you that they love you with that certain tone of voice?) to the tapping of a pencil on a table top. The important thing is that it is used at a certain point of the experience and that it is suitably unique when there is strong emotional stimulation so the two get associated with each other.
Let’s try an exercise in developing instant self confidence:
Think of a time when you were totally confident, you felt powerful and there was no doubt in your mind. As those feelings come back to you they will peak and subside. Start clenching your fist, pinch your left palm in a specific way, or any other anchor you wish to apply. Fire off the anchor a few more times as long as you are still in that peak state. . Repeat this a few times and then test it by using the anchor you set. If you’ve done it right you should feel a welling up of those same emotions.  This is how simple it is.  See what a difference anchoring can make to your life? Imagine firing off this confidence anchor whenever you are feeling a little unsure of yourself.
You can also do this to other people. The same principles apply.
The effectiveness of the anchor depends on the strength of the emotional experience, the uniqueness of the anchor and the number of times it is repeated.
This article covers the very basics of anchoring a good practitioner course will give you many powerful anchoring techniques and applications.
If you could anchor yourself to states of extreme confidence, power and motivation that you could then fire off at any time you wanted what would be different about your life? Imagine being able to do the same to the people around you. Would this increase your power as a business leader or manager? How about doing it to your children as a parent? The possibilities are endless.
For more information on coaching techniques please visit my website

Understanding The 7 Main Chakras


Chakras are our energy centres, they are like spinning wheels of energy. There are 7 main chakras and many smaller chakras located all over the body. These 7 main chakras are linked to our vital  organs and glands, our emotions, our minds and our spirituality.   It is when one of these energy centres becomes blocked that problems start to arise and we may start to feel out of sorts and if it continues to be blocked it can cause disease and health issues.

The 7 main chakras are aligned with the spine, if there are imbalances of any kind they will show within one of the main chakras and they will start to spin more slowly or stop spinning altogether.

Below we will look in detail at the chakra system, the colours that resonate with each of the chakras, which part of the body each chakra is linked to and some of the health issues that can arise if there is a problem with one of our energy  centres.

 Root Chakra (Muladhara)
The root chakra is located at bottom of the spine and affects our basic needs and desires.

The base chakra governs the adrenal gland, Spine (Chi, Life Force) Legs, Feet, Bones, Teeth, Large Intestines, Prostate, Bladder, Blood, Circulation and Tailbone and has the following psychological functions: Survival, Vitality, Reality, Grounding, Security, Support, Stability, Sexuality, Individuality, Courage, and Impulsiveness. The emotions linked to the root chakra are  passions.

Imbalances in the root chakra can cause the following problems: Anemia, Fatigue, Obesity, Anus, Rectum (hemorrhoids), Constipation, Colds, Body Temperature, Bladder Infection, Rebuilds Blood Cells & Hemoglobin, Sciatic, Numbness, Leukemia.

Imagine a glowing red light near the base of your spine for increasing the energy in this area. Focus can be assisted by holding a Ruby or Garnet crystal while chakra meditating.

Sacral Chakra (Svadhisthana)
The sacral chakra is located in the lower abdomen, and is associated with physical feelings, especially those of love, sexuality, and passion.

The sacral chakra governs the gonad gland, Ovaries, Testes, Womb, Kidneys, Urinary Tract, Skin, Spleen, Gallbladder, Recharges Etheric Body/Aura and has the following psychological functions: Feelings, Emotions, Intimacy, Procreation, Polarity, Sensuality, Confidence, Sociability, Freedom, Movement. The emotions linked to the sacral chakra are emotions  and  desires.

Imbalances in the sacral chakra can cause the following problems: Impotence, Frigidity, Ovaries,  Uterine  Problems, Candida,  Eating Disorders, Drug Use,  Depression, Alcoholism,  Polarity  Imbalances, Gout, Allergies, Asthma  (Oxygen Deficiencies).

You can activate and clear this chakra by focusing your attention on a bright orange light in that area. Focus can be assisted by holding amber crystals while chakra meditating.

Solar Plexus Chakra (Manipura)
It is located above the navel, just below the chest. It is believed that focusing on this point will help in issues related to self-control, discipline and ego.

The solar plexus chakra governs the pancreas gland, Digestion, Liver, Stomach, Diaphragm, Nervous System, Pancreas Metabolism, Small Intestines and has the following psychological functions:Personal Power, Will, Knowledge, Wit, Laughter, Mental Clarity, Humour, Optimism, Self-Control, Curiosity,Awareness.The emotions linked to the solar plexus chakra are purpose and sunshine.

Imbalances in the solar plexus chakra can cause the following problems: Ulcers, Diabetes, Hepatitis, Hypoglycemia, Blood Sugar Disorders, Constipation, Nervousness, Timidity, Addictions to Stimulants, Parasites & Worms, Toxicity, Jaundice, Poor Memory

It helps if you imagine a pure yellow light in this area Use amber or gold to intensify this meditation.

Heart Chakra (Anahata)
The heart chakra is the center of compassion, understanding, and forgiveness.

The heart chakra governs the thymus gland, Lungs, Heart, Bronchia, Thymus Gland, Arms, Hands, Respiratory, Hypertension, Muscles and has the following psychological functions: Relationships, Love,Acceptance,Self-Control, Compassion, Guilt, Forgiveness, Harmony, Peace, Renewal, Growth. The emotions linked to the heart chakra are balance and love.

Imbalances in the heart chakra can cause the following problems: High Blood Pressure, Passiveness, Lethargy, Asthma, Immune System, Breathing Difficulties, Pneumonia, Emphysema, Cell Growth, Muscle Tension, Heart Problems, Chest Pain.

You can use chakra meditation to focus on a green light glowing in this area. This will help you clear away feelings of resentment, guilt, and anger. Focus can be assisted by using emeralds and malachite crystals.

Throat Chakra (Vishuddha)
It is located just below your chin and is useful to help you with issues of truth and knowledge, and can help you communicate with clarity, empathy, and wisdom.

The throat chakra governs the thyroid gland, Throat, Vocal System, Mouth, Jaw, Parathyroid, Tongue, Neck, Shoulders, Lymph’s (Perspiration), Atlas, Menstrual Cycle-­ and has the following psychological functions: Communication, Wisdom, Speech, Trust, Creative Expression, Planning, Spatial, Organization, Caution.The emotions linked to the throat chakra are expansion  and healing.

Imbalances in the throat chakra can cause the following problems: Thyroid, Flu, Fevers, Blisters, Infections, Herpes, Itching, Sores, Tonsillitis, Toothaches, OCD, Speech Disorders, Hyperactivity, Melancholy, Hormonal Problems, Swelling,Hiccups, PMS,

Mood Swings.

The throat chakra is associated with the color blue, Focus can be assisted by using turquoise or blue topaz.

Third Eye Brow Eye Chakra (Ajna)
The third eye chakra is located in the middle of your forehead, just above your eyes. It is the center of spiritual knowledge and understanding.

The third eye chakra governs the Pituitary gland, Eyes, Nose, Ears, Sinuses, Cerebellum, Pineal, Forebrain, Autonomic Nervous System, Heals Etheric Body/Aura and has the following psychological functions: Intuition, Invention, Psychic Abilities, Self­ Realization, Perception, Release, Understanding, Memory, Fearlessness. The emotions linked to the third eye chakra are imagination and intuition.

Imbalances in the third eye chakra can cause the following problems: Blindness, Vision, Headaches, Migraines, Earaches, Nightmares, Sleep Disorders, Fear, Manic Depression, Anxiety, Schizophrenia, Paranoia, Equilibrium Imbalances.

Imagine an indigo light in this area while dealing with spiritual issues or concerns. Focus can be assisted by using Lapis lazuli and sapphires.

Crown Chakra (Sahasrara)
It is located at the top of your head and is associated with self-actualization, inspiration, divine wisdom, and the higher self. Focusing on the chakra will help you increase your sense of awareness and purpose, and develop a connection with universal wisdom.

The crown chakra governs the Pituitary gland, Upper brain, Cerebral Cortex, Cerebrum,

-Pituitary, Central Nervous System, Hair Growth, Top of the Head and has the following psychological functions: Knowingness, Wisdom, Inspiration, Charisma, Awareness, Higher Self, Meditation, Self-Sacrificing, Visionary.  The emotions linked to the crown chakra are bliss and  spirituality.

Imbalances in the crown chakra can cause the following problems: Depression, Alienation, Mental Illness, Neuralgia, Confusion, Senility, Veins, Blood Vessels, Lymphatic System, Bacteria, Warts, Skin Rashes, and Eczema.

It is represented by the color violet and can be assisted by using amethyst and quartz crystal stones.

Forgiveness Ritual


Forgiveness-Quotes-58As you let go of hurt and pain you will no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt in the past. You will be living in the present and planning your future.

Here is a ritual you can perform to forgive those that have caused you pain.

Find a quiet space, where you feel comfortable and relaxed and will not be disturbed. If you wish you can light a candle and some incense and have some crystals, rose quarts is a good choice as it offers unconditional love.

Sit quietly, with your eyes closed, take a couple of deep breaths to help you relax.

Bring in an image of the person you wish to forgive. Have them sit or stand in front of you.

Now open your heart to them and mentally say to them,

“I forgive you for anything you have done to me knowingly or unknowingly, intentionally or unintentionally to hurt or upset me.

I ask you forgive me for anything I’ve done to you knowingly or unknowingly, intentionally or unintentionally to hurt or upset you.

I forgive myself for anything I’ve done to you knowingly or unknowingly, intentionally or unintentionally to hurt or upset you.”

If you feel it necessary you can express the things that hurt you and the pain it has caused you. But it is not a necessary process.

When you have finished and are happy that you have said what needs to be said come back into the room and extinguish the candles. Take a minute to sit quietly with your thoughts and feelings. Be in tune with your feelings for a while and listen to what your feelings are telling you. Do you feel a weight has been lifted? Do you feel more relaxed and at ease?

If you still feel anger or resentment repeat the process until you feel at ease with the person that caused the pain.

The Power of Forgiveness


Most of us have been hurt or wronged by people we love or care about.  Maybe you have been criticized by parents, cheated on by a spouse or, constantly told you are stupid by the people around you. Whether they hurt us by actions or words the effects can cause us to feel bitter and resentful.  It is when we hold on to these feelings that we start to cause ourselves problems and this can leave us with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or wanting revenge.


What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness is a conscious decision to let go of resentment, bitterness, anger and thoughts of revenge.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you move forwards with your life releasing resentment and pain.

The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness will help to alleviate its grip on you and help you focus on other more positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can also help you to understand and offer feelings of empathy and compassion for the person who hurt you. Forgiveness also stops you looking back at past events and allows you to focus on the future.


What are the benefits of forgiving someone?

Letting go of hurt, anger, pain and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness, understanding and peace.

Forgiveness can also lead to:

Healthier, happier relationships.

Less anxiety, stress and hostility.

Lower blood pressure.

Fewer symptoms of depression and sadness.

Lower risk of alcohol and substance dependency.

The ability to look to the future and stop focusing on the past.


What are the effects of carrying this hurt and pain?

When we are unable to forgive the person who wronged us we will repeatedly bring the same scenario’s into our lives, relationships and experiences. If you become so wrapped up in the wrong you will never enjoy the present or the future. This can often lead to depression and often alcohol dependency which will numb the constant pain. The pain you are carrying can also stop you feeling that your life has purpose or that you are of value and loved by others.

When we carry around anger, frustration, un-forgiveness and pain our energy levels are of a low vibration. When we live on a low vibration we attract people on a low vibration, thus bringing forwards the same kind of relationships we have previously experienced, so nothing will change. As we forgive and change we will higher our vibration and attract people on a higher vibration, changing our experiences and our relationships.

How to forgive?

By forgiving you are committing to change, letting go of negativity, releasing fear and living in the present.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

Look at the situation honestly and how it is affecting your everyday life, health and well-being. Do you want this person to still be in control of your life or are you going to take back control and stop playing the victim?

How will forgiving this person change your everyday life? Will it allow you to make the changes you need too to start enjoying you life?

When you’re ready, actively choose to forgive this person who’s hurt or wronged you so that you can move forwards with your life.

Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and take back control.

As you let go of hurt and pain you will no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt in the past. You will be living in the present and planning your future. You might even find compassion and understanding for others.

What if the person I’m forgiving doesn’t change?

Getting another person to change his or her actions, behaviour or words isn’t the point of forgiveness, we all have fee will. Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life, by bringing you peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. Forgiveness can take away the power the other person continues to have in your life.

Forgiveness is about you and moving your life forwards, not the person who wronged you.

If you are constantly looking at the past, how can you enjoy your present and build your future???

Increasing Prosperity With Positive Thinking




Increasing prosperity in our lives can be accomplished by having the right frame of mind. The truth is, our thoughts are very powerful. They are capable of influencing every aspect of our daily lives, from our physical health to our social behaviors. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “As you think, so shall you be.”

If we want to improve our lives, we must first improve our thoughts. Harnessing the power of thought in a positive way has the ability to create great change in our lives, including our financial well-being and prosperity. But how? How do we take something as intangible as thoughts, and manifest them into a physical reality?

We must first understand that being prosperous is more than having a lot of money. Prosperity is a mindset, a way of interacting in our lives, and a way of thinking. Mastering this train of thought is not easy, but it is simple enough if we keep working on it consistently.

Following are some ideas to help you improve your thoughts, and ultimately attract more prosperity into your life:

Be grateful for the blessings in your life right now. Take a few minutes each day to express heartfelt gratitude for the good things in your life. Even more powerful, write a few of these blessings down each day. This helps to put your focus in the right direction — on abundance, not lack.

Use positive affirmations to begin training yourself to think positively. Use “I am” statements such as “I am worthy of all that is good.” Write the statements down and repeat them nightly before bed. Over time, this will implant these thoughts into your subconscious mind, and you will begin to naturally believe them.

Creative visualization can help you achieve prosperity by determining what it is you wish to achieve, and then thoroughly creating that image in your mind. This works in the same way affirmations do. Our subconscious will fill with images of prosperity, and eventually these subconscious “truths” will manifest in the physical. “See” yourself as being prosperous, and you will become so.

Encourage yourself with the belief that you can achieve great things. This could also be one of your affirmations, but expand on it. If you know you can earn a certain salary, tell yourself you can earn more. Allow yourself to believe all things are possible, and you will gain the confidence needed to reach higher than you ever imagined you could. If you believe you can do it, you are more likely to take the risks associated with people who are highly successful. Prosperity and success go hand in hand, so take risks and aim higher.

Start a savings account. As strange as it sounds, think about this: Like Attracts Like. Even if you can only afford to put a few dollars into your account every month, it will begin to build up and attract more money.

Finally, believe you are already wealthy. The creative ability of our thoughts is such that we lend more power and energy to whatever we consistently focus on. Focusing on lack will create more lack. Focusing on wealth and prosperity will create . . . guess what?

Remember that this is a process. You  won’t change your circumstances in one day. But over time, with consistent focus, your thoughts will begin to attract what you want. Once you master this power of thought, there are truly no limits to what you can create!

5 Tips On How To Build Self Confidence Today

5 simple tips to help you feel better about yourself and build you self confidence today. Learn how to smile and others will smile with you.

There are very few people who could call themselves perfect and be right. Most of us need to build our self confidence, but the majority of us either ignore the issues or concentrate on the negatives: stress, worry, jobs, money problems and relationship issues. Concentrating on these areas drains our self confidence rather than improving it.

If you could improve your self confidence you could make more money, look and feel better physically, or just be more relaxed with other people. Below there are five simple techniques that have been proven to help build self confidence today.

1. Talk to yourself. It sounds crazy but it works. All of us have a running monologue constantly in our heads, whether we realize it or not. Everything we see, hear, or touch sparks off an immediate dialog in our thoughts.

For those who lack confidence this monologue is filled with negative messages, many of which are the negative side of adverts from television, radio, newspapers, and just overhearing other people talk.

These negative thoughts literally suck energy from our minds and bodies and block the flow of positive messages. We need to hear the positive messages as they will build self confidence and raise our self esteem. Take control. Use your inner thoughts to talk to yourself in a positive manner, as often as you can.

As an example one of my regular sayings is “I like myself, I like myself, I like myself”. I just repeat it for a couple of minutes. It sounds cheesy, but does build self confidence  – Try it. I bet that if you go to the mirror right now and repeat out loud “I like myself!” 50 times, it will be impossible to not smile.

2. Dress as smartly and as classy as you can. You wont feel at your best if you don’t look your best. You will be amazed at just how much more confidence you will have just looking your best. It feels good when you are wearing your best clothes, are well groomed, and are surrounded by a clean environment. So what if it is Saturday, you need to build self confidence today not next week. Put on your nice clothes, get the car washed, style that hair! A hairdresser once told me “Everyday is show time!”

3. Increase your self esteem even more by giving thanks to what you are, how you look, and what you are doing. Say “thank you” to yourself, to everything you see, everyone you meet, and each smile that you receive.

4. Stand or sit correctly: How you stand sends out a message to the World, and in turn, back to you. This results in improving how you feel about yourself and will build self confidence today and every day.

There is scientific evidence that shows how posture affects our mood. Do not slouch. Slouching produces a down mood. By slouching you are telling the world and yourself it doesn’t matter, you don’t matter. Standing tall and upright will actually lift your mood. Help build up your confidence by pulling back those shoulders, stop that slouch, and walk proud.

5. Smile. Just smile and things seem better somehow. Practice smiling regularly and get your facial muscles used to the physical act of smiling.

Go to the mirror and smile – make yourself. Not a grimace, but a proper smile. If you don’t think you can try this:

1)Open your eyes as wide as you can – (try and get your eyebrows right up to you hair line)
2)Slightly open your mouth
3)Pull the corners of your mouth back towards your ears (If your not sure pull them back with your fingers so you know what it feels like then try again without your fingers).
4)Repeat 50 times. Get your facial muscles used to smiling and you will smile more and encourage smiles from others. This will make you feel happier and with that you’ll build self confidence today.